u/catskills_jamboree

I have a 3y3m son. Until a few months ago I would have said we had a secure attachment. However the last 2-3 months I have been struggling with some personal issues (not an excuse just explaining the situation) and I’ve been having a really short fuse with my son. A lot of yelling at him, not a lot of great moments of connection. This is primarily in the last couple months.

Well last week we were at the park with a friend and he kept going to my friend to hold her hand when I was correcting him, or when I told him no he would go ask my friend instead. Then when it was time to leave he didn’t want to go. And he actually went and ran and hugged a random stranger to try and stay! Then yesterday we were at the same friends house and again, he went to her several times while I was trying to correct him or when I told him no to something.

He’s also been very clingy to me in the morning lately. My 12 month old doesn’t sleep so my husband lets me sleep in a bit in the morning and my son struggles with that, he wants me desperately to be in the living room with him and this has devolved into some meltdowns.

I am realizing how badly I’ve been screwing up the last couple months and I feel terrible. Obviously I’m taking immediate action to correct my behavior but please prepare me for how bad I screwed up.

I have a 3y3m son. Until a few months ago I would have said we had a secure attachment. However the last 2-3 months I have been struggling with some personal issues (not an excuse just explaining the situation) and I’ve been having a really short fuse with my son. A lot of yelling at him, not a lot of great moments of connection. This is primarily in the last couple months.

Well last week we were at the park with a friend and he kept going to my friend to hold her hand when I was correcting him, or when I told him no he would go ask my friend instead. Then when it was time to leave he didn’t want to go. And he actually went and ran and hugged a random stranger to try and stay! Then yesterday we were at the same friends house and again, he went to her several times while I was trying to correct him or when I told him no to something.

He’s also been very clingy to me in the morning lately. My 12 month old doesn’t sleep so my husband lets me sleep in a bit in the morning and my son struggles with that, he wants me desperately to be in the living room with him and this has devolved into some meltdowns.

I am realizing how badly I’ve been screwing up the last couple months and I feel terrible. Obviously I’m taking immediate action to correct my behavior but please prepare me for how bad I screwed up.

I have a 3y3m son. Until a few months ago I would have said we had a secure attachment. However the last 2-3 months I have been struggling with some personal issues (not an excuse just explaining the situation) and I’ve been having a really short fuse with my son. A lot of yelling at him, not a lot of great moments of connection. This is primarily in the last couple months.

Well last week we were at the park with a friend and he kept going to my friend to hold her hand when I was correcting him, or when I told him no he would go ask my friend instead. Then when it was time to leave he didn’t want to go. And he actually went and ran and hugged a random stranger to try and stay! Then yesterday we were at the same friends house and again, he went to her several times while I was trying to correct him or when I told him no to something.

He’s also been very clingy to me in the morning lately. My 12 month old doesn’t sleep so my husband lets me sleep in a bit in the morning and my son struggles with that, he wants me desperately to be in the living room with him and this has devolved into some meltdowns.

I am realizing how badly I’ve been screwing up the last couple months and I feel terrible. Obviously I’m taking immediate action to correct my behavior but please prepare me for how bad I screwed up.