Well that escalated
So yesterday was my birthday and lets just say it didnt end in the best way. Lets just begin to say that i have a toxic family and aswell my relationship with one of my younger sister is not the strongest now (she basically treats everyone around her like crap and has lost few siblings from that aswell). Yesterday was my 30th birthday and my husband went above and beyond to make the day very special but what got to both of us was the way my younger sister was behaving, didnt wish me until she was told to, complained at the dinner table, actually used a lighter to burn the side of the birthday cake and so on. She is 17 so i get that she has teenager problems but she disrespects adults and elders way too much without a discipline which her mother is afraid to do and lets her daughter walk all over her like she is the parent. All this behavior from my sister pissed me off during the family birthday dinner but i tried not letting it get to me and my husband noticed all this too and held his tongue for the sake of letting me enjoy my day. It got to the end of the day when we all decided to go somewhere to take family photos which was cancelled due to our mother being upset with my younger sister and was crying over her and my sisters boyfriends behavior. This really got to my husband who doesnt tolerate any disrespect towards your elders or parents for that matter either (he comes from different cultures than me and is shocked at the way my sister treats and talks to her own mother). The day ended with my husband who is 30 btw and my sister and her boyfriend who are 17 clashing together, he got extremely heated and scolded them for the way they acted, raised his voice at them and even went as far as to threaten them that if they disrespect our mother like that again he would rip their heads off. During this whole ordeal i was trying to tell him to calm down and be in between but he told me not to hold him back, this ended with him walking off to cool his head instead of wanting to punch them and my sister called the police on him. The police came took statements, told him that they werent arresting him because he didnt do any domestic violence but they did warn him that my sister might press charges for threatening. For me i felt that the whole day was ruined and im upset that this had to happen at all regardless of celebration and it left me im shock and going over in my mind why couldnt this all be handled calmly yes i know people are allowed to get angry and hurt but still regulate their feelings in my opinion. I told my husband that he needed to learn how to regulate his temper and he said he doesnt need to, he did apologize to me for how the day went and promised me to not listen to me next time when i am trying to calm him down because this could have led much worse. My thing right now is what was the best solution to this matter, was anyone in the right here, does my husband need help for his temper? Any suggestions or views on this would be fine at this point because im lost for words at this point.