How to be okay with not being likable to most?
At my job, I work in a department separate from the main branch. My department rarely interact with the rest of the branch and I could go the whole day without seeing anyone outside of my department.
The other day I recently found out through a coworker that everyone outside of my department had dubbed me as the ‘scariest’ person.
At first I thought it was a joke, I don’t see myself as scary. But then my coworker was saying that a lot of people say that I am scary because I don’t really talk or approach people and I have this blank look. She said I just look “so strict”
I could tell she was joking and meant it in a light hearted way. But it sort of hurt me because I feel like no matter the setting, how hard I worked to be approachable, I always end up the most unlikable person in the space.
The people in my department like me. And when I told my boss about what our other coworkers dubbed me as, she thought it was funny since I am the least scary person. She didn’t understand why it bothered me.
I know this seems like such a minor issue but I always have issues with coming off not being approachable. Whether it was at my previous jobs, or with old college roommates, or my family. It’s a constant issue,