Could this be sihr?
My family and I migrated from a war-torn country to Germany some years ago. It took us a while to settle and rebuild our lives.
My brother used to be a very kind and loving person. He loved my mother deeply (we even used to tease him by calling him a “mommy’s boy”). He was also a great brother to me and my sister and would never hurt anyone.
Around August last year he started talking to a woman on an online dating app. At first he had no interest in her because there was a noticeable age difference (she was older). Whenever she messaged him, he mostly ignored her.
I even asked him if he was planning anything with her and he said things like:
“No, why would I do that? I know it can’t happen.”
But a few days later he suddenly said late at night that he was going to pick someone up from the airport. I knew it was her. I told him not to go, but he said:
“I can’t leave her alone in a foreign country. I’ll just help her like a brother and come back.”
After that everything started changing.
He began going out every night and sometimes wouldn’t come home for 2–3 days. Soon he started saying he was going to marry her.
About a month later he told my mom and sister to go meet her. They went, but there was a language barrier and the girl didn’t really try to communicate with them.
That same evening my brother announced that he would do his nikkah in two days. We tried to talk him out of it but he didn’t care. My mom, sister, and I were against it, but my father agreed just to avoid conflict.
The nikkah happened in a stranger’s house with only my father, my brother, and the girl present.
After that we tried to adjust and even moved to a bigger house. Then the girl’s mother started calling us saying her daughter deserved a proper wedding and that a simple nikkah wasn’t enough.
My brother took a high-interest loan to pay for the wedding. I told him it was haram but he didn’t listen. At this point he felt like a completely different person.
During the wedding she invited her male teachers and even hugged them while my brother was standing there.
After she moved into our house, my mother tried many times to communicate with her (even using hand gestures), but the girl would ignore her. My mother had always hoped to treat her daughter-in-law like a daughter.
Arguments started happening frequently. At one point my brother even grabbed a knife and tried to hurt my sister, which shocked us because he used to be someone who wouldn’t even harm a fly.
His wife also told my sister things like:
“I’m ashamed of this family. In my country people think of your country as terrorists. I even told my relatives you’re from somewhere else.”
Both my brother and his wife repeatedly told me and my sister to leave the house and never come back.
Eventually they moved out. Now my mother and I live alone, my sister is married, and my father moved in with my brother.
When my mother was cleaning my brother’s room after he left, she found a blue amulet hidden there.
Since then my mother has been extremely depressed and believes that maybe someone did sihr (black magic) on my brother because his personality changed so drastically.
I’m posting here because I don’t know what to do. If anyone knows someone trustworthy who deals with ruqyah or situations like this in Germany, please comment or DM me.
Any advice would mean a lot to us.