Did I get assaulted or was my (F19) ex (M19) just a douchebag?
TW for sexual assault and graphic sexual descriptions
I (F19) just left a very abusive relationship. He (M19) would get mad at me for everything under the sun and tell me there was no way to make it up to him. Then he’d be like, “Well, there is one way…” For context, he had a raging foot fetish. We were long distance, so if we weren’t together in person, I would have to more or less act like I was giving a footjob on camera? Like I’d have to pretend to have his dick between my feet and be jerking him off… or if it was one of the times we were in person it was the same idea of “well if you can make me cum I guess I can forgive you.” If I tried to say no for any reason, I’d be told something along the lines of, “Well, don’t you think you owe it to me?”He’d also regularly try to pressure me into nudes or intercourse in person (no, I did not ever have penetrative sex with him). I know this counts as like coercion because it was a situation of “well, either I do this or he goes back to yelling at and threatening me” but is this assault? At least the in person aspects of it? I was never really doing it because I wanted to but more because I felt like I had to. I’ve been assaulted before so I thought it would be easier for me to figure this out but I’m not really sure. I just want some closure :/