u/angelvsqm

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Powinienem iść na studia?

Mam ogromny dylemat co robić z życiem. Lata szkolne (i podstawówka i liceum) były dla mnie piekielne. Trudno jest mi się teraz zdecydować na jakiekolwiek studia, a wiem, że to będzie raczej konieczne o ile nie chce przewalić sobie życia.

Zdaje sobie sprawe, że na studiach w teorii jest lepiej. Ludzie mniej wtykają nos w nie swoje sprawy, a wykładowcy podchodzą do studentów jak do dorosłych ludzi (w większości). Natomiast sam fakt tej podobnej do szkoły formy mnie doprowadza do paniki.

Nie wiem jak miałbym zdawać sesje, tworzyć jakieś prezentacje czy aktywnie udzielać się na zajęciach. Nie miałbym problemu z pisemną formą egzaminów, ale gdy na myśl przychodzi mi ustna.. na maturze ze stresu ledwo wydukałem jakieś zdania, które się nawet ze sobą nie kleiły.

Wiem, że powinienem się wziąć w garść, naprawdę chciałbym i wiele razy miałem do tego podejścia.. ale zwyczajnie mnie to przerasta. Mówię sobie, że się ogarnę, daję z siebie wszystko przez jakiś okres, a potem znowu mam zjazd i jest gorzej niż było.

Powinienem iść na terapie, ale nawet i taki kontakt z człowiekiem mnie stresuje.. w dodatku wątpię żebym to przepracował do czasu rozpoczęcia roku akademickiego.

Nie wiem czy studia są dla mnie, ale nie chce skończyć na jakimś magazynie, czy stacji benzynowej, bo wiem, że stać mnie na dużo więcej. Przyznam, że przytłacza mnie też to, że moja rodzina jest pełna jakichś osiągnięć, a ja nigdy nie byłem jakiś wyjątkowy w kwestiach szkolnych.

Może ktoś mógłby zaproponować jakieś studia, które łatwo zdać bez formy ustnej? Do pisemnej się jeszcze przełamie.

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u/angelvsqm — 16 hours ago

So, I don't know anything about horrors! I've watched few classics that were recently made and thought about them as shitty.. and I know my boyfriend have similiar opinion about this type of horrors too, but he actually knows different things.

His 20th birthday are soon, so I wanted to get him something different this year.. but I fear I will choose something shitty as all those movies, If I use only google. So I need your help!

He is a huge fan of horror games (with classic on top: FNAF, cause he was growing up with it), but he also watches movies and reads books. He is pretty shy about sharing his interests, so I don't know any titles that he likes sadly, which makes it harder for me. I've asked many times to watch some of his movies with him, but he is shy and says that I won't like them, so no.

I just know he likes watching this analogs on youtube.. I also once watched one movie with him, about those underground tunnels in paris, but I don't remember the title.

And I know he was reading some books where sexual topics went hard to make the story more scary, so you don't need to go with censoried propositions.

I think he is really into some weird psychological uneasy feeling. Like into something that will scratch brain weirdly, If you know what I mean :'))

So please, give me GOOD propositions. I will also gladly take anything that is really niche, cause I fear that he will have this book already read If it's popular lol

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u/angelvsqm — 8 days ago

Since childhood, I’ve had trouble initiating relationships - I usually waited for others to approach me first. I often hidden behind my brothers back when I felt shy. At the same time, I really wanted to be accepted and noticed. When I felt rejected, like I annoyed someone, instead of showing it, I would act indifferent or become provocative to regain some sense of control? To show that I don't care and that's what I actually meant to act like? Even though it hurted me really bad inside.

I naturally fall into the role of someone who helps and supports others. It’s easy for me to listen, analyze people’s problems, and try to solve them. On one hand, it gives me a sense of being needed and valuable; on the other, over time I start to feel frustrated that people mainly see me through that lens. That they are only close with me because I'm free therapist.

In relationships, I tend to be emotionally intense. I get attached quickly, and it’s important for me to feel “chosen” by the other person. I experience jealousy and a strong fear of abandonment, because of how people treated me in the past. At the same time, I don’t like showing this need directly - instead, I try to be someone who’s hard to reject (for example: by being supportive, attractive, or adaptable).

I have a strong need to control how I’m perceived. I try to come across as kind, supportive, and generally “low-maintenance.” If someone sees me as rude or I make a mistake, I tend to overanalyze it and feel a strong sense of shame.

I notice a tendency to adapt to other people to the point sometimes it feels like I lose a clear sense of who I am? But also I wouldn't let anyone hurt my close ones for the sake of adapting to the group.

Having a sense of significance is very important to me - both in one-on-one relationships and in groups. I feel good in roles like organizer or leader, it gives me a sense of confidence and value.

But as much as I would want to be a leader in a group, I'm not good at keeping up with my goals. I have a clear sense of direction in my life, but also sadly have hard times going that way. I truely believe that If I actually tried, I would achieve something.. but I just fear being not accepted by group in new environments, due to my past experiences. I'm really dedicated for group goals tho. If I am a leader, I will do everything to organize, to plan, support and achieve our goal.

When I have my own group, where I am a leader, I tend to be over-confident sometimes lol

Overall, I feel like my self-worth depends a lot on whether I’m needed, liked, and chosen by others.

Also I don't care If I'm understood or not. I mean in the basic way I probably do, but this is not something I actually care about - I'm used to not being understood. I just wish to be loved and appreciated, nothing else matters tbh

If you've got any questions ask!

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u/angelvsqm — 8 days ago

Since childhood, I’ve had trouble initiating relationships - I usually waited for others to approach me first. I often hidden behind my brothers back when I felt shy. At the same time, I really wanted to be accepted and noticed. When I felt rejected, like I annoyed someone, instead of showing it, I would act indifferent or become provocative to regain some sense of control? To show that I don't care and that's what I actually meant to act like? Even though it hurted me really bad inside.

I naturally fall into the role of someone who helps and supports others. It’s easy for me to listen, analyze people’s problems, and try to solve them. On one hand, it gives me a sense of being needed and valuable; on the other, over time I start to feel frustrated that people mainly see me through that lens. That they are only close with me because I'm free therapist.

In relationships, I tend to be emotionally intense. I get attached quickly, and it’s important for me to feel “chosen” by the other person. I experience jealousy and a strong fear of abandonment, because of how people treated me in the past. At the same time, I don’t like showing this need directly - instead, I try to be someone who’s hard to reject (for example: by being supportive, attractive, or adaptable).

I have a strong need to control how I’m perceived. I try to come across as kind, supportive, and generally “low-maintenance.” If someone sees me as rude or I make a mistake, I tend to overanalyze it and feel a strong sense of shame.

I notice a tendency to adapt to other people to the point sometimes it feels like I lose a clear sense of who I am? But also I wouldn't let anyone hurt my close ones for the sake of adapting to the group.

Well, at the same time, having a sense of significance is very important to me - both in one-on-one relationships and in groups. I feel good in roles like organizer or leader in smaller communities; it gives me a sense of confidence and value.

I also feel an inner tension between wanting closeness and withdrawing - sometimes I cut myself off or don’t initiate contact, even though I want to.

Overall, I feel like my self-worth depends a lot on whether I’m needed, liked, and chosen by others.

I also I don't care If I'm understood or not, I'm used to not being understood: I just wish to be loved and appreciated, nothing else matters tbh

If you've got any questions ask!

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u/angelvsqm — 12 days ago