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My sister has asked me basically every week to babysit my 4 year old niece. She also told me “we might need your help Tuesdays and Thursdays for the summer”. My brother in law recently started working part time so they’re relying on me to fill in the gaps. I’ve not been offered any type of compensation.

I have two kids- 19 months and 10 year old. My oldest and my niece butt heads so when he’s not in school and my niece comes over i’m constantly having to put out fires between them.

I feed her and entertain her and occasionally pick her up from school and i’m tired. I know we’re supposed to be each other’s villages but i can’t help but feel like I’m being taken advantage of because i’m a SAHM. It’s so hard to say no to my sister. I love her and i obviously love my niece but my plate is already full without having a third kid to take care of.

I grew up with an extremely explosive, angry mother. I do not want my kids to remember me that way.

If you are/were an angry mom, what’s helped you the most? Books, breathing exercises, etc. I’m on a waitlist for a therapist currently.