Hey everyone,
My grandma is not in formal hospice, she is at home, but I'd be so happy if you could hear me out.
She is 77 and has many chronic illnesses, she is well taken care of medically, and so on. However, in the past 36 hours, she changed her behavior completely. She said she woke up 'very tired' and keeps repeating 'she doesn't need anything' or that she is 'done with everything' (unprompted, aka, not questioned, we just call her and see how she is doing). No food, no drinks, but my mom made a little dessert (she is also diabetic, hence no sweets)) that is sugar-free, fat-free, and so on, and she devoured that and enjoyed it so much. But other food, not really.
She used to be a very active person, with a HUGE garden and lots of animals to take care of (+100). Over the last months, she went from actively doing stuff to asking my mom to go there every day to do stuff for her. I didn't think it was peculiar because we've lost my dad in January, who was her son-in-law, but called him her son anyway.
He was always there over so many years to help her out. Now, it's just my mom and me, and we're doing our best, but it's so hard to replace men when it comes to physical work. Anyhow, we did do (or about 90%) my dad used to, but my grandma really degraded over the past months.
Like, she cannot walk much anymore, she went from 'helping' my mom to just 'supervising' her. The degradation lasted for months. I haven't noticed it, in the beginning, I was blinded by my dad's sudden passing and I still am. I realize I might lose her, too. I breaks me when I'm already broken.
I was thinking she was affected as my dad passed in 72 hours really quickly, it shocked all of us. When we told her, I was about to call ambulance because she fainted, and she came back just enough to take my phone out my hands and throw it away (while I was calling 112). My grandma has always been a baddy.
Now, in past 36 hours (since yesterday morning as of this writing), she keeps saying she wakes up tired, is tired, and she 'doesn't need anything anymore'. Like, unasked, she just kinda phased out of it, I don't know how to say it. She is 77 and with many chronic, severe illnesses, including heart and kidney failure. We've known her situation is critical for many years. But she's always been SO active and now she's just out of it.
I'm just wondering if this is the end? It feels like it, it sounds like it, but I kinda need your input as well. Also, any advice is welcome.
Thanks for reading all of this.