27M in an AM setup feeling stuck and confused?
I (27M) have been talking to a girl (25F) through an arranged marriage setup for about 3 weeks now. Our parents connected first, things looked good on paper, and then we started speaking regularly.
For context, I’m an entrepreneur and my schedule is pretty packed during the day. I usually get free after 7 PM. I’m also a morning person and typically sleep by 10–10:30.
Since we started talking, our calls have been stretching till 12 or even 1 AM. This has started affecting my routine and energy. When I brought this up, she took it as me not caring enough about her. I’ve tried explaining my side clearly, but the same argument keeps coming up and it’s turning into a loop of taunts and fights over the last few days.
What’s confusing is that we’ve met twice (her city is ~5 hours away), and in person everything felt natural. Good conversations, comfortable vibe, no awkwardness.
A few more details:
* I don’t have any past relationships (by choice)
*She was in a 2-year relationship that ended due to family reasons
*I genuinely don’t have an issue with her past, I just value loyalty and transparency
Lately, I’ve been feeling like she might be comparing me to her ex? or expecting a different communication style? That I’m not naturally aligned with.
My concern:
Is this just an adjustment phase, or an early sign of incompatibility in expectations (especially around time, communication, and boundaries)?
Would appreciate perspectives from women, especially in AM setups.