Met a girl multiple times but her texts are dry—how do I initiate physically without messing it up?
I’m 23M and matched with a 20F online. We talked for a few days and then went on our first date—I picked her up, we went to a cafe, talked a lot, then to a mall, had ice cream, and I dropped her back. She gave me a hug at the end.
After that, we’ve met a few more times after college for 1–2 hours (coffee/snacks). In person, she’s actually fun, talks well, and the vibe is good. We’ve held hands, but nothing beyond that—no kiss yet.
The confusing part is her texting is pretty dry. Not much effort there. But in real life, she’s different.
On our first date, she even said something like “you need to initiate, I’m a girl.” So I feel like she expects me to take the lead, but I don’t want to make her uncomfortable or misread things.
How do I escalate things naturally from here? Like when and how do you go for a kiss without making it awkward? And should I be worried about the dry texting?
Would appreciate honest advice.