u/Wooden-Translator656

Haven’t spoken to my father in 2 years - narcissist. Was in jail for DV and decided I didn’t want my daughter growing up around it. My mother still lives with him and stands by his side and I was putting up with her -she is also a narcissist.

Finally stood up to her after 6 years of crap (coinciding with meeting my wife) after I told her I needed help with our toddler. She’s sick, my wife is managing her; I was working and had a mole removed in the middle of my back yesterday and have 5 stitches so am a little slow and she just expects my wife to be at her every need and won’t ever say thanks. She was down staying with us for 4 days for work (and seeing my daughter for only the second time) and she told me that ‘she struggled to raise me without a village so I can do it too’ and refused to help. So she moved her flight to leave today because she ‘can tell we’re stressed’. I am asking for help - not brain surgery. My god.

This just escalated to an argument which basically told her to leave my house after just appalling behaviour for the last 6 years and then just flat out refusal to help while staying in our house and then changing her flight to leave because we were stressed and she just decided to leave in response instead of actually being a parent and stepping up to help.

I then got this text from my dad today - haven’t spoken to him in 2 years after years of only talking to me when he wants something and then cumulating with the DV. he hasn’t even acknowledged my daughter’s birth or existence - she is 18 months. Yet, he sends me this!!!

‘that was a small step for mankind, but a mighty big step for you.

I can only wish you the best of luck from here on, with your own dynasty. Because you have basically written yourself out of ours.’

Narcissists are the worst. Mum isn’t happy I finally called it out and my ‘dad’ is trying to hold onto the power he has over me. Ready to rewrite my family name for something good for my daughter, instead of being burdened by their shitty legacy.

Haven’t spoken to my father in 2 years - narcissist. Was in jail for DV and decided I didn’t want my daughter growing up around it. My mother still lives with him and stands by his side and I was putting up with her -she is also a narcissist.

Finally stood up to her after 6 years of crap (coinciding with meeting my wife) after I told her I needed help with our toddler. She’s sick, my wife is managing her; I was working and had a mole removed in the middle of my back yesterday and have 5 stitches so am a little slow and she just expects my wife to be at her every need and won’t ever say thanks. She was down staying with us for 4 days for work (and seeing my daughter for only the second time) and she told me that ‘she struggled to raise me without a village so I can do it too’ and refused to help. So she moved her flight to leave today because she ‘can tell we’re stressed’. I am asking for help - not brain surgery. My god.

This just escalated to an argument which basically told her to leave my house after just appalling behaviour for the last 6 years and then just flat out refusal to help while staying in our house and then changing her flight to leave because we were stressed and she just decided to leave in response instead of actually being a parent and stepping up to help.

I then got this text from my dad today - haven’t spoken to him in 2 years after years of only talking to me when he wants something and then cumulating with the DV. he hasn’t even acknowledged my daughter’s birth or existence - she is 18 months. Yet, he sends me this!!!

‘that was a small step for mankind, but a mighty big step for you.

I can only wish you the best of luck from here on, with your own dynasty. Because you have basically written yourself out of ours.’

Narcissists are the worst. Mum isn’t happy I finally called it out and my ‘dad’ is trying to hold onto the power he has over me. Ready to rewrite my family name for something good for my daughter, instead of being burdened by their shitty legacy.