u/VileValkyrie

Surgery in our future?

Hi folks.

I’m the partner of 35F with lower back scoliosis. Without having her medical paperwork in front of me, it was 12 degrees 3-4 years ago and is now at 28 degrees. It’s an S curve and there are related disc issues (slippage?) from it. She has chronic pain and nerve pain, she is also hypermobile.

She’s engaged in care and has a follow up about it but I’m anxious! We are low income already and nervous about the possibility that a major (maybe life changing) surgery putting her at risk of needing to stop working to pursue disability. We don’t want her pain worsening one way or the other. She can only work certain jobs now due to the pain.

Is she a candidate for surgery as it gives her pain and has progressed or is she too old now?

Should anticipating her needing a major surgery?

What is the post-op recovered life like? Better than the chronic pain? Or just different and complex.

I’m a worrywart and trying to be supportive and not an alarmist, but the negative consequences of what this could be (at its worst) would be really hard on us.

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u/VileValkyrie — 3 days ago

Accidentally asked for too short, my bad lol

Second picture is the before, and I had much longer hair (past my shoulders) just a few months before this. It’s technically a split middle bob but I’m feeling like lord farquaad supreme either way. I’m sort of nonbinary ish I guess and I feel like it makes me look masculine in a way I need to counter. I just needed some wave help but asked for too short since luckily, it does grow fast. Is this worse than before? Or better? I need some advice

u/VileValkyrie — 5 days ago
▲ 13 r/DrawMyTattoo+1 crossposts

Welp…

Recently got a flash tattoo on vacation and god, does it look too phallic for me. The placement is above my elbow and I have drawn a blueprint idea for an artist. Any ideas or recommendations before I commit to my blueprint?

It’s half the size of a credit card (lol) and can’t be too detailed for muddying purposes.

Please laugh 🤣 I’ll surely remember this forever.

u/VileValkyrie — 5 days ago