u/Velvetx_Aurora

As the title says I’m 33F living in GA, I am AA woman, 5ft4in. Not super comfortable with online dating but meeting people the old fashioned way has led me to old fashioned men who either have kids and want more kids or don’t have kids and do want kids. So here I am lol. I knew from 15 that I didn’t want to have kids and have remained CF by choice and will remain CF, would love someone likeminded. I am interested in another POC that can be AA, mixed with AA, or another race/ethnicity but still a brown person.

I work, am starting school in summer semester as I’m looking for a career pivot, enjoy playing my gaming console, binge watching tv shows, shopping, traveling, eating out, and just overall having a good time with good people.

You can DM me photos of yourself, I’m no longer on any social media sites so am not comfortable putting my photos out publicly, but if I am interested/think your handsome or seem cool I can send photos so you can see if you’re interested as well. This might be a long shot but hey, worth a shot right!?

I (33F) am unmarried and childless. I’ve never wanted to be a baby mama. I was raised by a single mother of 3 and saw all the struggles, disengagement, sacrifices, and emotional turmoil it took for her to raise the 3 of us (35M, 34F, 33F). I don’t look down on baby mamas, children’s mothers whatever you prefer to be called by any means, I just saw that life and never wanted to put myself in that position.

I always said if I did have children, I would need to be married first. However, as I’ve gotten older I’ve realized that a lot of married women are still single mothers and even if I get married it’s not guaranteed I won’t become a single mother so I’ve decided I just don’t want kids at all atp.

For context, being a single mother isn’t the only reason I don’t want children. At 15 I witnessed my cousin struggle to give vaginal birth to her son, which resulted into her having an emergency c-section. Also, while in high school , one of my closest friends mom died giving birth to her last child, so there’s also a bit of PTSD surrounding giving birth.

For a little more context, I’ve been caring for dogs since I was 10 years old and in my 33 years of living, I‘ve cared for 22 dogs. So realistically after my current dog (8F) passes, I just don’t want the responsibility of caring for anyone or anything else.

Over the years I’ve had many men try to make me their baby mama, try to impregnate me, but never wanting to marry me and I’ve never allowed anyone to trick me into giving birth. I just don’t understand its so many men who want kids but don’t have to experience any of the burden that goes with carrying/birthing/the changes that come with childbirth but they always want a mf child even when I express to them that it’s not what I desire or want for that matter.

Don’t even get me started on the economy, inflation, or the people who say I’m selfish or I’ll never experience real love or that my sole purpose as a woman is to bear children like wtf. I can barely afford life as a single woman let alone the thought of bringing an entire child into the equation.

Idk I’m not asking anything here and not looking for advice I’m just fed tf up and want to find my tribe or at least find a partner who also doesn’t want kids. If I/we change our mind later in life there are plenty of children in foster care or that need adopting who I would love to give an amazing life to but I just don’t want give life from my womb.

Guess I’m just needing to gain some traction on this new account. My old account was created many many years ago and had my first and middle name as my username. I’ve gotten off of basically all other social media and wanted to remain anonymous so I created this new account.

Now, I’m super annoyed because I can’t comment on most forums, can’t make a post, pretty much can’t do shit lol. Idk what to do to build traction quickly other than comment and make this post I guess. Super annoying.