Thoughts on men wanting to date younger women to buy time?
I (26F) recently went on 2 dates with a guy who I met on Hinge (33M). I put on my profile that I want a long term relationship and kids. He put on his that he’s looking for long term, open to short and left off his preference on kids other than that he doesn’t have them.
On the second date the topic of kids came up. I told him that I want kids but I think I’d still be happy without them if it didn’t work out. He said he truly could go either way, he’s fine with having a kid but if someone he met didn’t want them it wouldn’t be a dealbreaker for him. He said he saw I had want kids on my profile and it wasn’t a dealbreaker for him either and he still went out with me. He said he leaves the preference off his profile so he can explain his view on it when it comes up. He did say he doesn’t think he’d want more than 1 kid though which is fine for me as I only want 1-2.
The thing he said that I’m not sure how I feel about is that he doesn’t love dating women his age in his 30’s who want kids because if they do they want to move at a much faster pace than he does, because if they want kids it has to happen soon. He said because of this he prefers to date 26-27 year old women who have plenty of time. I’m not in a rush to have kids although ideally I’d want to have one before the age of 35 so I feel like I have plenty of time for that. Although I’m wondering what people’s thoughts are on this. Part of me wonders if I’ll get to my early 30’s with someone with this view and he won’t be ready or doesn’t really want them. Looking for men’s perspective on if this is a common view.