I didn’t grow up pretty or attractive or anything.
Now I’m reaching my mid 20’s and I’ve kind of had a glow up, but people don’t really care about looks as openly as they would’ve in high school.
I just want validation so bad.
Hi. I’m F24 South Asian. I don’t think my name is hard to pronounce, it’s pronounced exactly how it’s spelt. It doesn’t have silent letters in it or pronounced any different to how it’s spelt. It’s more English sounding, but obviously not an English name. However, there are some people at work who haven’t come across any Asian names before, so they seem to mess my name up a lot.
Should I go by a nickname instead?
Hello. So I was talking to a few of my friends and they told me to be careful as some men can mistake kindness for something else.
I don’t think I like giving out fake compliments just for the sake of it, but I also like expressing when I’ve noticed something, especially if someone’s changed their hair or bought new glasses etc.
But now I’m thinking, maybe it does come off as interested even though I’m not. In my head I’m just one friend complimenting the other (but we are still opposite genders).
I’m F24 and beyond insecure! I didn’t grow up very pretty and didn’t think I was either. I was the duff friend.
So I did the next best thing, I made a post on Reddit to understand if I was or not.
One thing led to another and before I knew it I was asking strangers to rate me through dm. Yes I have lost my mind. They started asking me for more pictures and I’m ngl I loved the attention haha. I don’t want to become one of those shallow people who only cares about their face.
The guys/ girls said I had a great face. One of them said I look like a goddess, I had beautiful eyes, the other said I was incredibly cute etc.
To think I’ve been overthinking and in my head to the point where I’ve actually distorted my own reality is crazy. I’m probably going to seek out therapy too.
But that’s my confession. Don’t dm to ask to see me pls.
Hi all. I’m 22 and currently received a job offer as an assistant PM for NR.
But of context, I’m not very well off, and I’ve been told by people who work IN rail that it’s a great place to be (they’ve never left). I just really want to be able to afford normal stuff others my age can.
My question is should I go for it? With GBR coming in would it affect my salary etc in the long term?
I hope this made sense
I’m F23 and a guy my age said what he said, and I had to hold my tears back. Being ‘the duff’ friend growing up and never feeling seen, I didn’t know how to take the compliment. I timidly said thank you and went back. He probably thinks I’m a bit shallow now :(((
So, the reason I’m asking is because I’ve heard the boys talk about girls they know at the back of the class.
I was sat closer to them one day so I could hear them whispering about girls calling them ‘hot’ etc.
They used to stare at me a lot at the start of the year, now they avoid all eye contact which is weird.
I’m kind of nervous scared they’re talking about me.
I’m almost 24 in the UK and never had a guy ask me before.
But yk what, I think it’s because I don’t put myself out there.
Girlies please help! How do I actually put myself out there?
Even if a man was interested in me, my first instinct is to get as far away from him as possible, as women have been taught from young. 😭😭
I’m almost 24 and never been with a guy before. I’m seriously beginning to think it’s because I’m unlovable.
I’ve been told I’m pretty and people adore me and whatever, but it just feels like empty words now.
I’m not the same girl who had a ton of love to give anymore. I feel like it’s all locked away inside me somewhere.
Even if a guy finally does choose me, he’d need to be so vocal about it and tell me word for word, or I just don’t think I’d believe him 😔
I’m here because I need an honest response. I’m hating myself right now. A lot.
I’m quiet and shy at first, I have a very smiley face and I love dressing up so much, so people are confused when I’m shy, but confused again when I feel comfortable and start talking a lot.
My issue is I’m the only girl in my class, and everyone only knows me as the quiet girl.
I struggle to speak up a lotttt, I probably have social anxiety, so usually I’m just on my own if the few guys who speak to me aren’t in.
However at the start of the year we all got to know each other, and when it came to working in pairs no one really wanted to choose me.
Once one of the guys asked the other to ask me what my favourite colour was, he said ‘no I don’t want to’, but turned around and asked me anyways. He looked like he wanted to laugh.
At lunch last week I was sat at the end of the table and they all just kind of avoided eye contact with me.
I’m officially the person no one wants to speak to.
I’ve thought it was because I’m too girly, or because I’m a girl, but I really don’t know anymore.
I have sooooooo many hobbies and stuff I’d love to talk about but no one to really talk to.
I live in the UK. I understand culture affects the way people interpret religion; culture is based on power, status, and how it can benefit men.
As I’ve grown older (I’m reaching my mid 20’s) I’ve grown closer to the hijab and what it means, understanding why Muslims wear it, and how it fits in my journey as a Muslim woman.
I’ve come to understand it’s for the sake of Allah, not men, as many of us misunderstood.
However, I’ve found both my hijab and boundaries are more accepted by non Muslims than Muslim men.
I feel saddened to have come to that realisation.
Wearing the hijab, I always thought I’d be more ‘protected’ by my Muslim brothers, or at least feel a better sense of community.
I hear about it all the time, about boys preferring girls who are quiet or shy at the back of the class (stereotypical example), but is that actually true?
(So I’m very shy until I’m comfortable, then I talk a LOT and I’m sure people are slightly taken aback by how much I talk and they end up becoming the quiet ones lol).
And I don’t just mean this romantically I mean this platonically as well.
I’ve been to uni and I have a degree, so this apprenticeship meant I was starting again. In a few years I’ll thank myself but I’ve really really really had to push myself to continue because I’ve thought about leaving a LOT.
We had a feedback session where we all wrote things we liked about each other. It was a work from home college day and supposed to be a fun day. The forms were anonymous and meant to be used as reflection for how others see us.
I am introverted yes, but I’m not completely quiet. I am chatty, but I don’t want to be very talkative during class because I really want to do well, so most days I put my head down and focus. I’ve spoken to everyone (20 of us) and they know how chatty and bubbly I am. We have each other on social media so we know more about each other etc.
The responses to my form has hurt me a lot however. Responses were: ‘too quiet’, ‘no confidence’, ‘be more extroverted’. Some people wrote kinder things like ‘self motivated’, ‘positive’, ‘kind and easy to talk to’, but only a few.
The funny thing is we had to deliver presentations to seniority, and mine was the best. The only point of improvement for me was ensure I am consistent in my confidence. Many of the seniors who came to watch gave me positive feedback and said I did great.
I’m not sure how I can face my cohort. Some of them actually avoid eye contact with me and don’t look at me. I think some people just feel uncomfortable around me but idk.
I didn’t think they’d dislike an introvert this much.
Edit- I actually tried talking more in class at one point but people just keep talking over me. And it’s expected that I won’t raise my voice now because I’m not the type of person to make someone feel bad. I hate myself in that classroom.
I’m 24 F and I’ve never been with a guy. I’ve had a few confessions but it was mostly because I was just there, and when I said no they were with someone else a day later.
Sometimes I feel like I have no love left to give. I’ve been waiting for so long. The guys I like don’t like me, or are already in a relationship so that’s a no.
Everyone around me has been in a relationship or is in one, and I just feel left behind like no one looks at me.
I have a million things I want to do with him. Dates and fun stuff, but I feel like time is passing by too fast and I don’t want to do those things anymore.
People are shocked I’ve never even held hands with a guy before.
But of backstory, I can’t ask my parents as dad had a severe gambling addiction and under a lot of debt, and mum doesn’t manage finances too well.
I’m F23 and started my first job. I can take around £1400 per month in to a separate account I use as a savings account/ money I don’t touch. The other £500 goes in to my day to day spending, but I try not to touch it also.
How else should I be managing my finances? I understand putting money in to an actual savings account can include interest, but please correct me if I’m wrong.
Should I be investing in stocks? I don’t quite understand how it works.
I’d really appreciate some advice.
Salaam.
I live in the uk, and I’ve never faced Islamophobia for wearing a hijab. I don’t wear it all the time, but most days.
Recently I’ve been struggling a lot.
When I was 21 (few years ago) I started wearing my hijab all the time overnight, but now I don’t like that I forced myself, which is why I wear it sometimes. (At the time I was also around a lot more Muslims as I was in uni).
The thing that hurts me is how beautiful some women are. I’m not comparing myself to them, but I know how beautiful I look with my hair out too.
How can I keep my hijab on, if so, all the time?
What motivates you?
It’s much easier when you’re not the only girl wearing a hijab.
Last time I took it off one of my friends said ‘I won’t say anything to you but you’re the only hijabi in the room it’s representation’ etc. (referring to my workplace).
The thing is she doesn’t know what it’s like as she’s always been surrounded by hijabs. I can’t even talk about Islam at work apart from a few people who understand Islam properly. People don’t typically care as long as it doesn’t affect them.
Ughhhhh