u/Unhappy_Dot_4935

First off I would like to say I am still doing my research about PMDD so forgive me if ‘episode’ was the wrong word. Anyways - my girlfriend has PMDD and it is really severe and debilitating for her. She has no help for it so she deals with it by herself. I try to be very understanding and I actively am still learning about it to know what she goes through better. The problem is is I feel like when she is going through these horrible few days where she is angry and upset, I never do anything correctly. I feel like I am constantly fucking up and making things worse. I have asked her many times what she needs in those moments and all she tells me is support. But when I do listen and try to be there she gets angry. I don’t think anyone but me has seen her anger when she is having these days, and I have just attributed that to the fact that I am her partner and she talks to me the most so its easier to take those emotions out on me. I feel really hopeless because we always end up fighting during this time and I want to understand how to help. We get into fights where they get absolutely nowhere and it is circles and circles over and over again. I really love her and this is not meant to make her look bad she is lovely and I know she always hates these moments after she feels better and does not like to be angry. Does anyone else experience this? Whether you are a partner of someone with PMDD or you yourself have PMDD I would like any advice

I needed a place to vent outside of my friends so here I am. I have been begging my parent to help me with getting my license since I was 15. I tried to get scholarships and enroll in college at 16 and my parent told me to wait and essentially forget it because they did not have the mental space to help me figure it all out (I would be a first generation student). I am a young adult with no license and unable to get a job because well I dont have an ID. I go to university in the fall. I am freaking the fuck out because I have a million things to do before school starts and I have done everything by myself. I applied and enrolled myself and everything. All I have been asking for for the last year is to help get my license so I can work and get my own car. I now only have a few months until I go off to college and have nothing. I am so upset because I have been held back by my own parents for years and there has never been a sense of urgency or deep care for the things I would have liked to do to prepare for my adult life. I understand my parent (who is single and doing it on their own) has been stressed out for a long time and sometimes just needed to focus on their problems. but the thing is, this has been my entire life!!! even as a child I missed out on things because my parent made empty promises or just flat out told me no to a million opportunities i could have done. I am feeling so upset, unheard, and deeply stressed out and honestly not prepared for school. I just wish my needs for my life could matter, for just a day out of their time to take me out and help me.

I got accepted into university a few months ago but as I get closer to the year starting I have been thinking a lot more about it. It is going to be 40k a year and I come from a lower middle class family. By the time I get my bachelors degree in a few years I will have spent like 200k or more. I am just wondering if this is worth it for just a bachelors degree, or if I should go the community college route (and maybe transfer to uni later on). The school I got into is supposed to be an affordable school, but I am also an out of state student, so. and if you are wondering why I didn’t look at schools in my state, I just did not really like any of them and not many options to choose from. Looking for any input at all🙏