u/Turbulent_Award_4611

One of my classmates shone a laser into my eyes after finding out that I have -6 vision and after hearing the teacher say that it’s dangerous to walk outside without glasses with such a prescription. It took me a couple of minutes to realize that I was angry at myself for not reacting more sharply—like not punching him in the face—but instead I just responded briefly in conversation with others. He kind of thought I has bad eyes and decided to “finish me off” or something? I keep having thoughts that I should get back at him or get into a fight. I would call myself a pacifist, but right now I feel anxiety mixed with hatred.

They don’t do this in my country, so I’m curious 😅

Hi guys. I have APD or hidden hearing loss (you can google it if you don’t know it; the conditions are almost identical).

Right now I’m feeling anxious and I keep remembering how my brother threw a heavy toy at my head when I was a child, and I’m starting to overthink things. I wasn’t taken to the hospital; I was fine at the time and just had a bump. What reassures me now is that I remember how I used to enjoy anime and music in the period between my age now and the time I was hit, so I think the connection isn’t that strong.

By the way, to make sure I’m not “crazy,” I did a hearing test with an audiologist and my main frequencies were mostly fine.

I want to know: do many of you feel this way from birth, or did the problems appear only when you started noticing them? Are there people here who started experiencing communication difficulties only in their teenage years or later?

Hello everyone 👋 I’m the older brother in my family and I don’t know what to do with my younger brother.

To start with, in childhood we often fought, argued, etc. (although I was always against it). He did reckless things, and often part of his responsibilities (for example, until 5th–6th grade I did his homework at my parents’ request. I couldn’t refuse). My brother’s mistakes were often blamed on both of us, and if he did something bad, instead of saying “he is bad,” my parents would say “we are bad.”

Once my father had been drinking and wanted to hit my brother, but I pulled him away because I was worried about my brother and possible injuries. Another time, my brother intentionally took my phone during an argument and threw it away. We fought, and during the fight he fell again (he is completely fine, but the speakers were damaged and became worse/quieter; there is no obvious reason, so there’s no point in repairing it, but it was important to me because I’m sensitive to poor-quality sound).

Not long ago, we had another argument and he hit me in the shoulder. I hit him back and we started fighting, during which I broke one of the doors with my elbow. Later I cleaned up the glass, checked on my brother, made sure he was okay (I was worried about a concussion), and told my parents that I had tripped over a dog.

After all of this, he still continues to insult me and makes it hard for me to live normally. Today he tried to start a fight again. I played along, but when I saw his leg swing at head level, I realized he doesn’t care about possibly injuring me.

This is only a small part of our life, but I’m trying to say that he doesn’t feel any gratitude toward me or even avoid hatred. I don’t remember my depressive period clearly and I’m not sure whether he contributed to it with his words, but I do remember him continuing to insult me.

I increasingly have thoughts that I should have beaten him and not even tried to check on his health. Just so that he would be afraid of me and leave me alone. In a fair fight he wouldn’t stand a chance anyway—so what was all this for?

I’m 19, he is 15. Right now I live with my parents and, accordingly, with my brother. Maybe there are some tips on how to reduce communication between us and make it more distant? I just want to stop being treated like I’m nothing.

TLDR: I’m 19, my brother is 15. I feel awful because he keeps treating me like a punching bag with his childish behavior.