u/TheAce5

Yeah you know the classic debate. Here we go.

Matched with a girl on hinge. New to the area so I wanted to meet up and explore. We ended up going out and having a fun time (on my end at least), she liked to touch my arm, fist bump while talking about games, and touched my leg. Conversation went really well and we had a ton in common. We ended up doing several shots and went to another place.

We continued to talk and I thought she was into it so I started playing with her rings (my usual move) as she explained them and I just held her hand for a moment. She then goes it’s casual dating around here (not my experience based on the other dates I’ve been on but) I took it in stride. I figured that she wasn’t into that and we carried on. No big deal I thought. Yeah the comment was weird and was a tell for me at that point. Anyway at the end of the night we had a few pecks as I walked her to her car.

I might’ve been overeager here but over the next day or so I was interested enough to want to see her again so I asked. She’s like I’ll keep you updated. I said no problem but of course that’s not a good sign. A few days pass by and I was ready to find out my fate lol. I started a conversation and she’s asking me questions back and carries the conversation so I’m like alright let’s find out when date 2 happens so I asked. She goes I’ve been thinking about it and would like to be friends. How do you feel about it. So I basically said hey it was great meeting you, I want to date and I’m not looking for friendship but good luck.

Idk why she bothered asking me to friends? It’s clear I wanted to take her out so it didn’t feel even to me. Idk how your experiences have been but my experiences have always been it never ends well. Usually a lose-lose for me. I’ve tried it before in the past. Usually they’re not that good of a friend as maybe she’s just being polite and we’ll never hangout. Or they’ll just complain about dating to you (who they rejected) or they just ditch you once they get the next dude. So yeah I could use a friend since I just moved here and she was cool but it’s clear she didn’t find me attractive. Which you can’t win them all. So what’s the point? I want to find my person. Maybe if it was in a different context not old then I’d seriously consider it.

Age old question. What would you have done?

Yeah you know the classic debate. Here we go.

Matched with a girl on hinge. New to the area so I wanted to meet up and explore. We ended up going out and having a fun time (on my end at least), she liked to touch my arm, fist bump while talking about games, and touched my leg. Conversation went really well and we had a ton in common. We ended up doing several shots and went to another place.

We continued to talk and I thought she was into it so I started playing with her rings (my usual move) as she explained them and I just held her hand for a moment. She then goes it’s casual dating around here (not my experience based on the other dates I’ve been on but) I took it in stride. I figured that she wasn’t into that and we carried on. No big deal I thought. Yeah the comment was weird and was a tell for me at that point. Anyway at the end of the night we had a few pecks as I walked her to her car.

I might’ve been overeager here but over the next day or so I was interested enough to want to see her again so I asked. She’s like I’ll keep you updated. I said no problem but of course that’s not a good sign. A few days pass by and I was ready to find out my fate lol. I started a conversation and she’s asking me questions back and carries the conversation so I’m like alright let’s find out when date 2 happens so I asked. She goes I’ve been thinking about it and would like to be friends. How do you feel about it. So I basically said hey it was great meeting you, I want to date and I’m not looking for friendship but good luck.

Idk why she bothered asking me to friends? It’s clear I wanted to take her out so it didn’t feel even to me. Idk how your experiences have been but my experiences have always been it never ends well. Usually a lose-lose for me. I’ve tried it before in the past. Usually they’re not that good of a friend as maybe she’s just being polite and we’ll never hangout. Or they’ll just complain about dating to you (who they rejected) or they just ditch you once they get the next dude. So yeah I could use a friend since I just moved here and she was cool but it’s clear she didn’t find me attractive. Which you can’t win them all. So what’s the point? I want to find my person. Maybe if it was in a different context not old then I’d seriously consider it.

Age old question. What would you have done?