never dated, never tried, now i feel left behind, am i screwed for never learning how to talk to women?
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i’m 22m, and i’ve never dated. not once. not even tried. in school i was invisible, the quiet kid who kept his head down. zero female interaction. i thought it didn’t matter. now i realize it does.
these days, whenever i’m around women, i freeze. my words stumble, my body language turns stiff, i avoid eye contact. it’s not just shyness anymore, it feels like fear.
meanwhile, my closest friends are talking about marriage. some are probably tying the knot this year. i’m happy for them, but there’s this ache in my chest, not jealousy, but the realization that i’m gonna be left behind.
i fill my nights with hobbies: music, fashion, scrolling playlists at 2am, cooking food i don’t even enjoy eating. but hobbies aren’t companionship. they don’t laugh at your dumb jokes or notice the way you fold your sleeves.
i know women aren’t a cure for loneliness. but i can’t shake the feeling i missed a core part of growing up. like everyone else was practicing, failing, learning, while i just sat it out.
so here’s my question: where do guys like me even meet women in pakistan without looking like a creep? i don’t want to force anything. i just want to learn how to be normal, to talk without freezing, to maybe meet someone who sees me as unfinished art, not a finished product.
i know it’s pakistan, so odds are low. but you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. maybe this messy post is my first shot.