u/Technical_Skirt41

My Dad is 81 years old and is currently battling pneumonia and Parkinson's Disease (10+ years).

His health started quickly declining around March 16th and he's been on life support and now hospice. Hospice nurse wants to immediately give him morphine because of his shortness of breath/possible chest pains. And that doesn't sit well with my mother and I since he hadn't been administered the minor pain medications.

I honestly don't know what to say/process at this time. Any kind words or advice would help. Thx and God Bless.

I’m going through one of the hardest things in my life as a 20 year old…

First off: My dad is seriously ill (hospice care - pneumonia) and getting daily care from nurses. 

On the other hand, the half-sister (50+ y/o) from his first marriage is constantly nagging me, asking questions about his medications, pain, when he might die… everything. She’s has always been anxious and confrontational in the past; and every little question feels like a test I can’t pass unless I ask ChatGPT what is the best response when texting her.

I hate that she often blames my mother and me for not taking good care of him, but in reality, she has never been involved in his care for the 10+ years he’s had Parkinson’s disease. My dad also seems much happier and more at peace with my mother right now than he ever was with his first wife.

This is so stupid, and I wish she would just grow up and just focus on being with our dad in his remaining days instead of arguing or questioning every little thing.

^(Thx for listening to my little rant.)