u/SweetSleepCat

I invited my friend for an honest conversation about our relationship. I shared what was bothering me in our 'friendship,' and even cried in front of her. She listened to everything in silence with an indifferent expression, reacted without any emotion, and then asked if we would still walk together to the bus stop to go to university. You can imagine my reaction. As you can understand, she never shared her own reasons for what was bothering her in our friendship, and that was the end of our conversation.

Envy is the worst feeling, and she was terribly envious, even though I never put myself above anyone else — not my achievements nor my successes. Let me give you an example. She wanted to be in a relationship with a guy. Every day as we walked to class, she would ask me if I wanted a relationship. I always said no, because my goal for the near future was studying — and only studying. But as fate would have it, about six months later, I ended up in a relationship — not with some random guy nobody knew, but with her friend, who lived in the same dorm section as her. And when I shared this news with her, the first thing she said was, 'Just don't make me feel guilty when you two fight.' Another example: she has always loved — and still loves — male attention. I'm indifferent to it. She likes to drink and party — I don't care about that; I actually have a negative attitude toward it. Studying never really appealed to her, while I'm deeply passionate about it. But because she has this trait of 'wanting to be the best at everything,' she constantly competed with me. And you know, there were signs: constant headaches after being around her, irritability and nervousness — and this only happened after seeing her. With other friends, nothing like that occurred. And what's most interesting — when I asked my ex-boyfriend, 'Does she act the same way around me as she does with you and our other friends?' he replied that it was like two different people. He said that with me, she was — and I quote — 'balanced and calm,' but with them, she was loud and noisy.

If she disliked me that much, if she never saw our friendship as sincere or honest (the way I tried to until the very end, trying to improve our relationship so that we could both feel comfortable and good), couldn't she have just said directly: 'I don't want to be friends with you or talk to you'?"

I invited my friend for an honest conversation about our relationship. I shared what was bothering me in our 'friendship,' and even cried in front of her. She listened to everything in silence with an indifferent expression, reacted without any emotion, and then asked if we would still walk together to the bus stop to go to university. You can imagine my reaction. As you can understand, she never shared her own reasons for what was bothering her in our friendship, and that was the end of our conversation.

Envy is the worst feeling, and she was terribly envious, even though I never put myself above anyone else — not my achievements nor my successes. Let me give you an example. She wanted to be in a relationship with a guy. Every day as we walked to class, she would ask me if I wanted a relationship. I always said no, because my goal for the near future was studying — and only studying. But as fate would have it, about six months later, I ended up in a relationship — not with some random guy nobody knew, but with her friend, who lived in the same dorm section as her. And when I shared this news with her, the first thing she said was, 'Just don't make me feel guilty when you two fight.' Another example: she has always loved — and still loves — male attention. I'm indifferent to it. She likes to drink and party — I don't care about that; I actually have a negative attitude toward it. Studying never really appealed to her, while I'm deeply passionate about it. But because she has this trait of 'wanting to be the best at everything,' she constantly competed with me. And you know, there were signs: constant headaches after being around her, irritability and nervousness — and this only happened after seeing her. With other friends, nothing like that occurred. And what's most interesting — when I asked my ex-boyfriend, 'Does she act the same way around me as she does with you and our other friends?' he replied that it was like two different people. He said that with me, she was — and I quote — 'balanced and calm,' but with them, she was loud and noisy.

If she disliked me that much, if she never saw our friendship as sincere or honest (the way I tried to until the very end, trying to improve our relationship so that we could both feel comfortable and good), couldn't she have just said directly: 'I don't want to be friends with you or talk to you'?"

I invited my friend for an honest conversation about our relationship. I shared what was bothering me in our 'friendship,' and even cried in front of her. She listened to everything in silence with an indifferent expression, reacted without any emotion, and then asked if we would still walk together to the bus stop to go to university. You can imagine my reaction. As you can understand, she never shared her own reasons for what was bothering her in our friendship, and that was the end of our conversation.

Envy is the worst feeling, and she was terribly envious, even though I never put myself above anyone else — not my achievements nor my successes. Let me give you an example. She wanted to be in a relationship with a guy. Every day as we walked to class, she would ask me if I wanted a relationship. I always said no, because my goal for the near future was studying — and only studying. But as fate would have it, about six months later, I ended up in a relationship — not with some random guy nobody knew, but with her friend, who lived in the same dorm section as her. And when I shared this news with her, the first thing she said was, 'Just don't make me feel guilty when you two fight.' Another example: she has always loved — and still loves — male attention. I'm indifferent to it. She likes to drink and party — I don't care about that; I actually have a negative attitude toward it. Studying never really appealed to her, while I'm deeply passionate about it. But because she has this trait of 'wanting to be the best at everything,' she constantly competed with me. And you know, there were signs: constant headaches after being around her, irritability and nervousness — and this only happened after seeing her. With other friends, nothing like that occurred. And what's most interesting — when I asked my ex-boyfriend, 'Does she act the same way around me as she does with you and our other friends?' he replied that it was like two different people. He said that with me, she was — and I quote — 'balanced and calm,' but with them, she was loud and noisy.

If she disliked me that much, if she never saw our friendship as sincere or honest (the way I tried to until the very end, trying to improve our relationship so that we could both feel comfortable and good), couldn't she have just said directly: 'I don't want to be friends with you or talk to you'?"