u/Subtlefeline

I have known since I was a kid that no one will save me. And that I am 100% responsible for saving myself.

My family definitely doesn't help. It is a good day when they don't add to the problem list instead.

Therapy? Yeah, been in therapy for more than 2 years. Nothing really changed.

So eh. No one will save me. But past experience tells me that me saving myself is not going too well either. How do people even do it?

Other than a brief stint of working in the office, my mother has been a full time house wife. Well, sort of. More on that later.

My father has always been the sole breadwinner for the family. My mother always complained on what a useless husband he was since he would sleep over the weekends. Tbf, no one is allowed in the kitchen and he does the gardening and handy work. Admittedly is a traditional house hold split though.

And on the house wife part. Ever since I was a kid, I was the one handling the laundry, cleaning, setting up tables and pet stuff around the house. So not too sure what the 'housewife' was busy with tbh.

While I do still live with them, I do a lot less of the housework since I work full time in office with a 40 minutes commute.

Which brings to the issue. My mother still does make snarky comments at anyone (including my father and myself) on how it is impossible to be tired working in office. Funny thing is, I see her taking more breaks as a housewife compared to when I am working. Like, I have full time office work even when I was WFH for 8-9 hours a day. My mother does maybe... 3-4 hours of house work with lots of breaks in between.

I have worked in corporate for almost a decade now.

Used to work in public accounting where it was turning on laptop after reaching home from work to work unpaid overtime due to the sheer work load. Covid times were the worse since it was working non stop due to reduced head count, same work load but lesser job opportunities out there.

I love to game. But now I can't even open my gaming laptop to play games after work hours.

And it does negatively affect my work since I can't even open my gaming/home laptop at home to do any upskilling courses either.