I think my friend is a liability
Hey ladies 🤍
I hope everyone is doing okay. I really need some advice....
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I have a very close friend that I’ve known since high school. We’ve been friends since we were 18. She knows my family, I know hers, and we’ve genuinely grown up together through a lot of life experiences.
We’ve always shared similar entrepreneurial mindsets and dreams. Because we both grew up in single-parent households, we always had that “grind and build something for yourself” mentality, so naturally over the years we kept trying different business ideas together.
The first thing we tried was an edible business after high school. It honestly did well in the beginning, but after some time it started becoming difficlut because she kept sampling the product too much. Eventually the business failed, and if I’m being honest, it started feeling less like a partnership and more like I was unintentionally supporting a habit. It was sad because I really believed in what we were building.
Later after COVID, we tried pig farming, and this one truly had potential. I had buyers lined up, farmers vhoice, and things were finally starting to move in the right direction. Then I had to travel for a funeral for one week. When I came back, everything had spoiled because the main electricity hadn’t been switched on and she had left for the weekend. We had already processed and packed everything.
I was deeply frustrated and hurt, and I ended up distancing myself from her for a while after that.
Eventually we found our way back to each other because outside of business, I genuinely love her as a friend.
Then in 2024, I got into an online fetish/dominance role that was paying really well. At the time she wasn’t financially stable, so I introduced her to it because I truly believe in helping the people I love succeed too. At first everything was okay.
But after a few months, she became emotionally involved with one of the clients and things slowly started changing. She became inconsistent, stopped showing up properly, and eventually got fired. When I later asked my employer what happened, they told me she hadn’t attended work consistently for almost 8 weeks. I honestly didn’t even realize it had gotten that bad because she kept telling me my employer was just “too strict.”
Now she’s unemployed again, and the man she got involved with is no longer consistently supporting her financially either, so things seem unstable for her right now.
The hrad part is that she’s genuinely intelligent, creative, and honestly very capable. I’ve never doubted that. But when it comes to consistency, discipline, and follow-through, things somehow keep falling apart.
Before her bullshit... we had already started discussing building our own platform one day because we both understood how that industry works and what kind of services we’d want to provide the infrastructure... Now in 2026, I’ve finally gotten a real opportunity to build the exact kind of platform we used to dream about together. And this is where I’m struggling emotionally… because I think I’ve realized I don’t want to go into business with her anymore.
This is the kind of opportunity could leave us comfortable financially if we create a good foundatoin and I’m at a point in my life where I feel like I can’t afford instability anymore.
And as painful as it is to admit, I honestly feel like it might be easier to build this business with stranger, than her
My mutual friends think I’m being too harsh and that these reasons aren’t serious enough to leave her out of the business. But a part of me feels apprehensive, and I don’t know if I’m wrong for listening to my gut.