u/StrongBee1438

I’m 17(female) and I’ve been talking to and hanging out with a guy (also 17) for a couple months. He’s very sweet but there are some times I just feel disrespected by the way he treats me. Over the weekend, I wanted to hangout with him and I even begged my dad to let me go to his house. Of course my dad said no at first but he ended up changing his mind, but his parents had to be home. So I was like bettt and I went over there around 5ish. When I got there he asked me if I wanted to get high. And I was like ehh do u think ima be geeked by the time I get home and he was like “idk” so I say nah it’s ok. After i decided to help him sort some things in his room and once we were done he was like ima tell my mom we are going to pick up food. We eneded up smoking tg, which I didn’t mind I decided to do it. But here’s when things kinda go south, we drive back to his place and he showers. During this time I’m just scrolling on TikTok high asf while on his bed. After that we start kissing and he begins take off his shorts and I do the same. But before we even did anything more I said I wanted to use protection and I told him to grab a condom. He then proceeded to say “bru why you don’t need one I’ll pull out”.. keep in mind I’m always always advocating to use condoms and but he says it’s uncomfortable and can’t seem to get hard with one on. We tried using the condom but his shi kept dying and he started saying how it’s so uncomfortable.Anways after he said that I said that he had to respect my choice and how protection makes me feel better because I get paranoid about those typa things. He agreed and told me to come here and we ended up kissing and then we proceeded to have intercourse. I’m not sure how to feel because yes I consented to sex but ONLY with protection. Another thing that kinda alarmed me was he tried going down on me and I kept trying to move my legs and he would hold them down ig to show that like he wanted to yk but I would keep moving and getting on top of him so he wouldn’t do it.This happened maybe a couple of times. A few moments later I’m laying down on my phone texting my brother about something and bro starts eating me out from the back with out my consent. I didn’t realize what he was doing until I felt his tongue down yk. I quickly got up and was like I don’t like that. The next day I tell my friend what happened and she said it was lowk sa but I’m not sure. I feel like I let it happen. I reached out to hotlines for sa support and asked what they thought and they said I didn’t consent and he ignored my boundaries, but my step mom and teacher said it’s not sa because I didn’t say stop or try to physically fight him off. My step mom said that it seemed like it was consensual but “I just wanted protection” and then said “I’m sure you enjoyed It” she later came in my room and apologized because she didn’t realize the severity of the situation. I’m just so confused because the adults I talk to invalidate what I say. The only person who understood me was my friend. I’m not sure what to do because I like the guy a lot ik that sounds stupid but maybe it was a mistake. Since then he has apologized and expressed how bad he feels. He texted me saying”i rlly wasn’t thinking that much into it yesterday, i really do love and respect you a lot, i want you to trust me too, I feel really bad I wouldn’t want to ever do smth u didn’t want to do idk im sorry abt but I made a mistake and im sorry”. After my teacher told me it wasn’t Sa at school I began feeling bad because maybe I was overreacting and how my situation doesn’t fit the criteria of sa..I ended up apologizing to him and he kept expressing how sorry he was and how he doesn’t mean any harm. Every time I see him now it makes me nauseous and I feel like it’s going to continue to bother me. Sorry this post is really long.

I’m 17(female) and I’ve been talking to and hanging out with a guy (also 17) for a couple months. He’s very sweet but there are some times I just feel disrespected by the way he treats me. Over the weekend, I wanted to hangout with him and I even begged my dad to let me go to his house. Of course my dad said no at first but he ended up changing his mind, but his parents had to be home. So I was like bettt and I went over there around 5ish. When I got there he asked me if I wanted to get high. And I was like ehh do u think ima be geeked by the time I get home and he was like “idk” so I say nah it’s ok. After i decided to help him sort some things in his room and once we were done he was like ima tell my mom we are going to pick up food. We eneded up smoking tg, which I didn’t mind I decided to do it. But here’s when things kinda go south, we drive back to his place and he showers. During this time I’m just scrolling on TikTok high asf while on his bed. After that we start kissing and he begins take off his shorts and I do the same. But before we even did anything more I said I wanted to use protection and I told him to grab a condom. He then proceeded to say “bru why you don’t need one I’ll pull out”.. keep in mind I’m always always advocating to use condoms and but he says it’s uncomfortable and can’t seem to get hard with one on. We tried using the condom but his shi kept dying and he started saying how it’s so uncomfortable.Anways after he said that I said that he had to respect my choice and how protection makes me feel better because I get paranoid about those typa things. He agreed and told me to come here and we ended up kissing and then we proceeded to have intercourse. I’m not sure how to feel because yes I consented to sex but ONLY with protection. Another thing that kinda alarmed me was he tried going down on me and I kept trying to move my legs and he would hold them down ig to show that like he wanted to yk but I would keep moving and getting on top of him so he wouldn’t do it.This happened maybe a couple of times. A few moments later I’m laying down on my phone texting my brother about something and bro starts eating me out from the back with out my consent. I didn’t realize what he was doing until I felt his tongue down yk. I quickly got up and was like I don’t like that. The next day I tell my friend what happened and she said it was lowk sa but I’m not sure. I feel like I let it happen. I reached out to hotlines for sa support and asked what they thought and they said I didn’t consent and he ignored my boundaries, but my step mom and teacher said it’s not sa because I didn’t say stop or try to physically fight him off. My step mom said that it seemed like it was consensual but “I just wanted protection” and then said “I’m sure you enjoyed It” she later came in my room and apologized because she didn’t realize the severity of the situation. I’m just so confused because the adults I talk to invalidate what I say. The only person who understood me was my friend. I’m not sure what to do because I like the guy a lot ik that sounds stupid but maybe it was a mistake. Since then he has apologized and expressed how bad he feels. He texted me saying”i rlly wasn’t thinking that much into it yesterday, i really do love and respect you a lot, i want you to trust me too, I feel really bad I wouldn’t want to ever do smth u didn’t want to do idk im sorry abt but I made a mistake and im sorry”. After my teacher told me it wasn’t Sa at school I began feeling bad because maybe I was overreacting and how my situation doesn’t fit the criteria of sa..I ended up apologizing to him and he kept expressing how sorry he was and how he doesn’t mean any harm. Every time I see him now it makes me nauseous and I feel like it’s going to continue to bother me. Sorry this post is really long.

I’m 17(female) and I’ve been talking to and hanging out with a guy (also 17) for a couple months. He’s very sweet but there are some times I just feel disrespected by the way he treats me. Over the weekend, I wanted to hangout with him and I even begged my dad to let me go to his house. Of course my dad said no at first but he ended up changing his mind, but his parents had to be home. So I was like bettt and I went over there around 5ish. When I got there he asked me if I wanted to get high. And I was like ehh do u think ima be geeked by the time I get home and he was like “idk” so I say nah it’s ok. After i decided to help him sort some things in his room and once we were done he was like ima tell my mom we are going to pick up food. We eneded up smoking tg, which I didn’t mind I decided to do it. But here’s when things kinda go south, we drive back to his place and he showers. During this time I’m just scrolling on TikTok high asf while on his bed. After that we start kissing and he begins take off his shorts and I do the same. But before we even did anything more I said I wanted to use protection and I told him to grab a condom. He then proceeded to say “bru why you don’t need one I’ll pull out”.. keep in mind I’m always always advocating to use condoms and but he says it’s uncomfortable and can’t seem to get hard with one on. We tried using the condom but his shi kept dying and he started saying how it’s so uncomfortable.Anways after he said that I said that he had to respect my choice and how protection makes me feel better because I get paranoid about those typa things. He agreed and told me to come here and we ended up kissing and then we proceeded to have intercourse. I’m not sure how to feel because yes I consented to sex but ONLY with protection. Another thing that kinda alarmed me was he tried going down on me and I kept trying to move my legs and he would hold them down ig to show that like he wanted to yk but I would keep moving and getting on top of him so he wouldn’t do it.This happened maybe a couple of times. A few moments later I’m laying down on my phone texting my brother about something and bro starts eating me out from the back with out my consent. I didn’t realize what he was doing until I felt his tongue down yk. I quickly got up and was like I don’t like that. The next day I tell my friend what happened and she said it was lowk sa but I’m not sure. I feel like I let it happen. I reached out to hotlines for sa support and asked what they thought and they said I didn’t consent and he ignored my boundaries, but my step mom and teacher said it’s not sa because I didn’t say stop or try to physically fight him off. My step mom said that it seemed like it was consensual but “I just wanted protection” and then said “I’m sure you enjoyed It” she later came in my room and apologized because she didn’t realize the severity of the situation. I’m just so confused because the adults I talk to invalidate what I say. The only person who understood me was my friend. I’m not sure what to do because I like the guy a lot ik that sounds stupid but maybe it was a mistake. Since then he has apologized and expressed how bad he feels. He texted me saying”i rlly wasn’t thinking that much into it yesterday, i really do love and respect you a lot, i want you to trust me too, I feel really bad I wouldn’t want to ever do smth u didn’t want to do idk im sorry abt but I made a mistake and im sorry”. After my teacher told me it wasn’t Sa at school I began feeling bad because maybe I was overreacting and how my situation doesn’t fit the criteria of sa..I ended up apologizing to him and he kept expressing how sorry he was and how he doesn’t mean any harm. Every time I see him now it makes me nauseous and I feel like it’s going to continue to bother me. Sorry this post is really long.