u/Striking_Claim69

For those about sex and end of party (suggestions)

The anxiety will go away the longer you are sober and have sex , yes give yourself permission to enjoy sex and have it , first few times will be anxiety it’s normal cause you haven’t had it that way so the more you do it the confident you become , the I can’t get hard with sex or anxiety is why people use again but it’s normal . To start I would jerk off with porn and not just rely on others . If your fresh off drugs then it’s gonna take a while for your hormones to get back to normal and fire at the rate it’s suppose to , all your dopamine and receptors are maxed out . Think of it like a regeneration of liver when you quit alcohol or just doesn’t become brand new but takes time .
We don’t talk enough about training your mind to have sex and it’s even baby steps . First being naked watching porn , see if get erection . Then jerking ( no cock ring ) to see if get hard , also reprogramming yourself to not sketchy sex porn (the ones with pure drug use ) to regular porn etc . Your retraining your entire brain and nervous system so allow yourself some fumbles and learning experience and remember baby steps of you will use

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u/Striking_Claim69 — 5 days ago

Coming to terms with single for maybe life

I live in small rural bowling green Kentucky , dating is hard as heck, I don’t even know apps anymore or how . I live hour north of Nashville tn. I’m 50 turning 51 in sept , realizing I might be single till I die . I’m care taker of my parents and no formal education and learned I have autism (very high functioning ) and adhd and ocd , learned this year . It all now makes sense why I feel the way I do a lot and over “everything “ . I have a lot of love to give but I can’t leave my parents on their own so I am in this town for life . I don’t know how to date and learning at 50 what most figured out at 20 to 30 years old .

Anyhow just had to vent and aka how do older gays go about life knowing it might not ever happen

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u/Striking_Claim69 — 13 days ago