u/Street-Animal4469

I got banned from r/SFbitcheswithtaste bc I made a post inquiring for friends specifically with other dog owners my age but was very clear I was not open to being friends with anyone in tech. I got 10+ nasty comments from techies saying why I would ask for friends if Im so exclusive. Then the mods deleted my post and banned me for posting a "low engagement" post.

It's hard to make friends as an adult. Being born and raised in SF, it feels like a shame to outgrow your friends. I generally get along with most people but that doesn't mean I like most people. I have strong moral values and ethics that SF culture raised me to have.

I'm not sorry I don't want to be friends with Karen who has never done any other drugs than weed. I know myself enough to know that I won't get along with Meghan who is still in relationship with her hs bf from her hometown in the midwest.

There are extremely few people (i'd estimate less than 1%) that move to SF intentionally to be in a diverse culture. This means having to coexist with people different than you, and yes that means coexisting with homeless people too. Poverty and wealth discrepancy is part of SF.

College should be free and accessible to everyone. I know its not everyone's path. But going to college forced me to grow and consider people's perspectives I don't agree with.

Everyone I know is still stuck in survival mode because they haven't challenged themselves in anyway. Buddhism says all life is suffering but it gets to a point like aren't you sick of suffering in the same way?

I did drugs to cope with my abusive parents as a child. It was never the life I wanted to live. Some of my friends did outgrow drugs but still have extremely low self esteem. I overcame addiction and did a lot of work in therapy because I didn't want to continue to suffer in the same way I grew up (breaking generational trauma if you want to label it).

I don't relate to people with "generational" wealth because I am still in a lot of student loan debt and we just don't have the same values. Im a conscious consumer. I can't travel or have elaborate hobbies yet. I'm in my late 20s so I'm still young. I don't necessarily feel behind. I just feel alone. I don't have anyone I can relate to. People say it's an lonely path being first gen college but I didn't realize how long it continued. I guess I should've tried to make more friends in college with all the ethnic clubs.

I tried being friends with my older coworkers and they all excuse racism and bigotry. Civil Rights Act wasn't implemented too long ago so I imagine the curriculum for college has changed significantly. They accept that this is how the world is suppose to be.

Nobody wants liberation. Family and friends try to bring me down for having "high" standards of living. They expect you to suffer the way they suffer because they think its a right of passage. They can't accept that we all suffer differently. They just want trauma olympics. They dont want community because that would mean they would have to change and do better for themselves and others. They get angry at me when I try to reason with their fears and ignorance. They don't want to be challenged which is fine but living life driven by fear, ignorance and hedonism sounds miserable. But misery loves company i guess.