u/StarryAry

Unconventional Michigan Wedding Venues

My fiancée and I have been touring venues in Wayne, Oakland, and Washtenaw... and we aren't falling in love with anything. Everything I'm finding on websites like the knot and zola feel like they're for people who aren't us.

What we DON'T want: Barns, Golf Courses, outdoor only/tent venues or churches still in operation as churches. (Buildings that used to be churches that are now something else are OK). We are not against hotels, but most event spaces in hotels are not it for us. We toured Royal Park and their atrium was just too small. We've also ruled out Rust Belt Market, to everyone's surprise. Their timeline rules don't work for us.

What we've liked so far: Collins Clocktower in Chelsea, currently likely our top contender. Planterra in West Bloomfield is amazing but their minimum is 75 guests and we'll realistically probably only have around 60. I like the Crofoot but my fiancée doesn't.

Upcoming tours: The DIA, but we might run into the same problem we had with Planterra.

Non-negotiables: Must be queer friendly. This is a lesbian wedding. Must be in Michigan, preferably within an hour of DTW or GRR for our guests flying in from out of state.

A little about us: We are both nerdy and alternative. We love punk, metal, shoegaze, goth, etc. We play video games, board games, TCGs and TTRPGs and like scifi and fantasy and anime. Neither of us particularly care about wedding traditions but we're having a wedding simply because it's the only way to get all our friends from out of state to show up at the same time. So places that rent for events that don't particularly seem "wedding-y" are totally cool!

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u/StarryAry — 1 day ago

Looking for places to shop for Black or Red gown options in NYC

I’m planning my two-bride wedding and neither of us want to wear white. Most of our local bridal stores only have white wedding gowns. Other businesses that have formal wear everything is fast fashion/school dance quality like $100-$300, or pageant gowns with flashy beads and sequins. I'm looking for places that sell bride-worthy gowns in the $1,000 to $9,000 dollar range. We'll be in New York at the end of June for a cousin's wedding and I bet there are some amazing boutiques, bridal or otherwise, that have what I'm looking for. Quinceañera dresses in this price range are also an option I'm interested in exploring.

I am not interested in shopping online at this juncture. In person stores only please! Also, businesses that are explicitly queer-friendly are a bonus!

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u/StarryAry — 1 day ago
▲ 36 r/sewing

Altering this to be tea length, two options? Open to suggestions.

I could do it the typical way... chop off the bottom... hem 9 1/2 yards PLUS the underlayer...

OR I can keep the hem and fullness and shorten it from where it's connected at the waistline? Do some sort of gathering or pleating? Any experience with doing it this way? Sounds easier.

I'm a hobby level seamstress. I've been sewing VERY CASUALLY for about 20 years. I can do most things, but not quickly. I'm also working with only a sewing machine, no overlock.

u/StarryAry — 11 days ago

"Formal Cocktail" DC in NYC. June. - How should I alter this?

Edit: I could not really see how short these all were when taking these photos, and my photographer has zero concept of formal wear and did not advise me that my knees were showing in the latter photos. No knees were considered being shown.

this Ladivine dress for super clearance and need to alter it. It's waaay to long, even with 7" heels. I shoved the dress into a corset underneath a couple different ways to demonstrate how I might alter it, but I can't decide. I'm open to other ideas as well.

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Bonus information- my date is wearing the fancifull doll dress in the last photo.

u/StarryAry — 12 days ago