u/Special_Feeling_4033

I’m currently 4+2 or 20 dpo, and lastnight in my sleep I had an orgasm. This isn’t unusual for me, but what is unusual is the pain that followed. The cramps were really intense for about 60 seconds afterwards, felt like major major period cramps, and now it’s about an hour later and I’m still cramping although it’s not as intense. No bleeding or anything. Has anyone had this before? So worried it’s done something to the embryo or is the start of a miscarriage.

I am 4 weeks pregnant after one ectopic and one chemical. I went to meet my friends new baby yesterday who I would have been due to give birth with at the same time but I had an ectopic and lost my baby. I then fell out with her shortly after my loss because she announced her pregnancy weeks after I had lost mine without any sensitivity towards me. We would have been literal days apart. She apologised and we moved on. Her baby was beautiful and I’m so happy for her, but I knew it would be hard. My other friend who was there is also very pregnant and due in a few months. Neither of these friends have ever experienced loss. They do not know I’m pregnant just now, but they know about my loss and that I’ve been trying. The whole conversation circled around babies, pregnancy, labour, and miscarriage yesterday. I cried the whole way home and had a panic attack because I feel so triggered by seeing them. I’m so worried I have another loss, I barely slept lastnight for the anxiety. I don’t know why I’m posting this, but I suppose I just need to get it out into writing. If anyone has kind words I would love to hear them, this feels like an incredibly lonely place to be. I realised when I was driving home lastnight that I thought a new pregnancy would instantly make me feel better, but I’ve realised that nothing will ever take away the pain of having an ectopic and losing my first pregnancy when all my friends are having lovely pregnancies around me. I was also fired after my ectopic (was definitely discriminated against) so I have a lot of trauma from this part of my life. I think I’m just looking for kind words and a bit of reassurance that I’m not going insane and these feelings are normal? 🥺❤️‍🩹 thank you x

I am 4 weeks pregnant after one ectopic and one chemical. I went to meet my friends new baby yesterday who I would have been due to give birth with at the same time but I had an ectopic and lost my baby. I then fell out with her shortly after my loss because she announced her pregnancy weeks after I had lost mine without any sensitivity towards me. We would have been literal days apart. She apologised and we moved on. Her baby was beautiful and I’m so happy for her, but I knew it would be hard. My other friend who was there is also very pregnant and due in a few months. Neither of these friends have ever experienced loss. They do not know I’m pregnant just now, but they know about my loss and that I’ve been trying. The whole conversation circled around babies, pregnancy, labour, and miscarriage yesterday. I cried the whole way home and had a panic attack because I feel so triggered by seeing them. I’m so worried I have another loss, I barely slept lastnight for the anxiety. I don’t know why I’m posting this, but I suppose I just need to get it out into writing. If anyone has kind words I would love to hear them, this feels like an incredibly lonely place to be. I realised when I was driving home lastnight that I thought a new pregnancy would instantly make me feel better, but I’ve realised that nothing will ever take away the pain of having an ectopic and losing my first pregnancy when all my friends are having lovely pregnancies around me. I was also fired after my ectopic (was definitely discriminated against) so I have a lot of trauma from this part of my life. I think I’m just looking for kind words and a bit of reassurance that I’m not going insane and these feelings are normal? 🥺❤️‍🩹 thank you x