Watering yourself down, to be more relatable to guests
I've noticed people (other men in particular) treat me (41/m) different when I style my hair. Usually I keep a mid-fade and 2in on the top, and ideally styled to a combo-over. Well I had work prior to waiting last week, and didn't style my hair. The past two days I have styled it, and noticed people are less enthusiastic and just seem less friendly when I greet them. Tips are less, and I even got stiffed last night 2x. People aren't as engaging, I can tell older men, in particular, do not care for me at all. Women with men, are rude to me. I've had a few guys give dirty looks to me or the woman, when I engage with them (again, I am professional, and would never flirt with a guest at work)
I'm waiting tables at night in a Chilis, and professional with a very relaxed, friendly, and soft personality. I lift 5x a week and I am jacked, but gym rat is not my personality at all, and I tend to lighten my voice to come off as friendly. I'm not someone who takes myself terribly serious, do not talk about myself often, and try my best to make the experience about the guest.
Maybe I am overthinking it, but I seriously feel like my haircut is giving off douchey vibes. I'm one of the best servers at my restaurant (based on performance scores), it's not like i'm giving bad service or being douchey. Thoughts?