u/Southern_Animal_6214

We are married for almost 2 years, we have an 8 month old. It has been very rough on me not living close to my family and living with my in laws (all males). Yesterday we got in an argument over something small, he called me stupid so I did not have the best attitude and kept going back at him. Eventually he laid his hands on me and pushed me out of the room, I have all the bruises. He never apologized. I called his father (my FIL) and instead of defending me, he told all of us to move out. After 10 mins my husband and my brother in law just acting like nothing ever happened, they were laughing at car stuffs while I cried alone in the living room.

I feel lonely and isolated. The home always has fights between my husband, his brother and my dad. I want to move out but it means neither of them can afford rent and all have to split. Is this considered abuse if he was defending himself because i was yelling?

Moms who stayed and who left, please give me some advices. I’m very young, early 20s. I work hard and tried hard to keep the relationship together, this month I paid rent and insurance for both of us, give me spending money because he doesn’t have a job yet. I don’t know if staying until I’m financially better (I just got an amazing internship offer) means I’m weak and have no self respect or it is a smart thing to do until after summer so I can save up a bit more. But it sucks living in a home where no one is on your side no matter what happens.

TL;DR:

Married ~2 years, have an 8-month-old, living with husband’s family (all males) far from my own support system. After a small argument, he called me stupid, I argued back, and he physically pushed me out of the room hard enough to leave bruises. He never apologized. His family didn’t defend me and acted like nothing happened while I was crying alone.

I feel isolated and unsupported. I’m currently the main provider while he’s unemployed. I want to move out, but finances are complicated.

Is this abuse even if I was yelling? And for those who’ve stayed vs left—how did you decide?

We are married for almost 2 years, we have an 8 month old. It has been very rough on me not living close to my family and living with my in laws (all males). Yesterday we got in an argument over something small, he called me stupid so I did not have the best attitude and kept going back at him. Eventually he laid his hands on me and pushed me out of the room, I have all the bruises. He never apologized. I called his father (my FIL) and instead of defending me, he told all of us to move out. After 10 mins my husband and my brother in law just acting like nothing ever happened, they were laughing at car stuffs while I cried alone in the living room.

I feel lonely and isolated. The home always has fights between my husband, his brother and my dad. I want to move out but it means neither of them can afford rent and all have to split. Is this considered abuse if he was defending himself because i was yelling?

Moms who stayed and who left, please give me some advices. I’m very young, early 20s. I work hard and tried hard to keep the relationship together, this month I paid rent and insurance for both of us, give me spending money because he doesn’t have a job yet. I don’t know if staying until I’m financially better (I just got an amazing internship offer) means I’m weak and have no self respect or it is a smart thing to do until after summer so I can save up a bit more. But it sucks living in a home where no one is on your side no matter what happens.