u/Snoo_46397 — reddlx

To explain, I (26M) have been texting a woman (31F) with ADHD for the past 2 month and a half and we have our first meetup soon on the 23rd. When we first started texting, it was a tad rough for me cause, I couldnt understand her texting behavior, as at first, she'd only reply to my messages at inconsistent timings, sometimes hours after I messaged her. I first thought, it was due to a lack of interest which was odd cuz I recently asked her if she'd like to meetup at an animecon in a month, to which she said yeah but after asking her she revealed that its cuz her ADHD tends to mess with her timing of replying to messages.

After she told me and I stated I understood (and looked a bit more into it so as I could accommodate her as best as I could) , it felt like she was happy with it and opened up much more. She'd initiate texts with me every other day, share what she's doing even down to mundane stuff, stuff she likes sexually, explain the intricacies of her hobbies, posting like when she's 3d printing stuff or even the code she'd write. Even in the middle of the night, she'd hit me up just to chat. Granted her reply time was still inconsistent, but I didn't really mind cuz it was an ok pattern, and I did understand that a combination of her being busy irl and her adhd made it difficult and I was ok with waiting as she showed she was interested in me. I even asked if she'd like to get some coffee together at the con with me paying, to which she replied with the (\*\*👀\*\*) emoji, seemingly interested. So yeah it was pretty great at the time.

A few weeks after that period, she suddenly stopped initiating convos. At first I didn't mind, but then 3 days went on, and she seemed very quiet even on her social media. I decided to withdraw a bit, thinking maybe somn happened behind the scenes. She did get back to me a couple of days later, and it felt like nothing much changed. She told me about a place she'd like me to visit and check out, which I did, and she seemed very happy and even more engaged than before the break! Talked alot more than usual during that week, even sent me sexual flirty meme (which TBF I acknowledged as flirty a tad too late).

After that meme, 9 days now...she hasn't initiated text again. I thought maybe its like last time, but she's posted on social media twice now. I do still text with her and when I do, it doesn't feel like she's not putting in effort in the conversation. She still sends me photos of what she's working on and tells me what shes up to, asks about my day and comments on what I do. Our last convo 3 days ago was after I saw her post an image of herself on twitter, I DMed her that I found it super sexy. She disclaimed that it was a year ago when she had less weight, to which I said, I still find her hot, to which she reacted with a white heart, told me she was sleepy cuz she pulled an all-nighter, but still she proceeded to ask about my day and talked a bit before she slept off. So far, she hasn't sent a text to me afterwards 3 days later.

Is this an ADHD issue or just regular lose of interest? Should I bring this up to her? Dont get me wrong, if its an ADHD thing, Im legit willing to accommodate and work it out with her. Just wanna know if its that or just loss of interest and I should stop bugging her.

To explain, I (26M) have been texting a woman (31F) with ADHD for the past month and a half and we have our first meetup soon on the 23rd. When we first started texting, it was a tad rough for me cause, I couldnt understand her texting behavior, as at first, she'd only reply to my messages at inconsistent timings, sometimes hours after I messaged her. I first thought, it was due to a lack of interest which was odd cuz I recently asked her if she'd like to meetup at an animecon in a month, to which she said yeah but after asking her she revealed that its cuz her ADHD tends to mess with her timing of replying to messages.

After she told me and I stated I understood (and looked a bit more into it so as I could accommodate her as best as I could) , it felt like she was happy with it and opened up much more. She'd initiate texts with me every other day, share what she's doing even down to mundane stuff, stuff she likes sexually, explain the intricacies of her hobbies, posting like when she's 3d printing stuff or even the code she'd write. Even in the middle of the night, she'd hit me up just to chat. Granted her reply time was still inconsistent, but I didn't really mind cuz it was an ok pattern, and I did understand that a combination of her being busy irl and her adhd made it difficult and I was ok with waiting as she showed she was interested in me. I even asked if she'd like to get some coffee together at the con with me paying, to which she replied with the (**👀**) emoji, seemingly interested. So yeah it was pretty great at the time.

After that meme, 8 days now...she hasn't initiated text again. I thought maybe its like last time, but she's posted on social media twice now. I do still text with her and when I do, it doesn't feel like she's not putting in effort in the conversation. She still sends me photos of what she's working on and tells me what shes up to, asks about my day and comments on what I do. Our last convo 3 days ago was after I saw her post an image of herself on twitter, I DMed her that I found it super sexy. She disclaimed that it was a year ago when she had less weight, to which I said, I still find her hot, to which she reacted with a white heart, told me she was sleepy cuz she pulled an all-nighter, but still she proceeded to ask about my day and talked a bit before she slept off. So far, she hasn't sent a text to me afterwards 3 days later.