Father in law ruining family trip- I’m losing my mind
I’m on a family trip with my husband’s family and I am SUFFERING.
First of all, my father-in-law makes his kids (including me) call him “jefe.”
This man is the most miserable, pouty, attention-seeking person I have ever met. He needs constant praise for existing, and if he doesn’t get it, he ruins the vibe for everyone.
Let me paint the picture.
My husband and I were looking at basketball playoff tickets (my team vs his team). I literally told my husband to check with his dad first so he wouldn’t feel left out. His dad says “I’ll see.”
Next morning: he buys TWO expensive tickets for him and my husband and goes “oh I didn’t think about getting one for you.”
???
Then offers to give me HIS ticket like he’s some kind of martyr. Sir I am not taking your guilt ticket. Now I’m left out AND you get to look like Father of the Year. Incredible work.
So I go buy my own ticket like a normal person. Don’t get to experience this with my husband. Extremely frustrating that he tends to forget his son isn’t just his son anymore and leaves me out of things. Especially when WE were trying to involve him in OUR plans🫠
Now let’s talk about the car rides from hell.
We are in Boston for my husband running the Boston marathon. This man drives like he has a death wish, is screaming at everyone over literally nothing (music, directions, breathing wrong probably), and then tells US to relax when we react to almost dying in the car. At one point he’s been yelling nonstop, my husband gets excited about something, and he suddenly screams:
“WE WILL NOT BE YELLING IN THE CAR”
I mutter “that’s crazy” under my breath because ??? be so serious ??? and then he goes dead silent and pouts the rest of the ride like a toddler.
AND THEN. After a drive where he was screaming the entire time, we get out of the car and he goes to my sister in law:
“what the f*** is wrong with those two???”
SIR????
Also he keeps pulling the “I paid for this trip” card while simultaneously making the trip unbearable. I would literally rather go into debt for this trip than deal with this energy. (Which we wouldn’t have. We could’ve easily paid for this trip ourselves)
The wildest part? My husband just gets yelled at and then immediately goes back to being buddy buddy with him like nothing happened. Meanwhile me and his sister are standing there like we just survived a psychological experiment
Also my MIL is the best person ever. The most patient, kind woman. I have ZERO complaints about her other than putting up with his shit! He constantly screams at her and everyone just writes it off as “that’s Jefe”. Nothing about this family makes sense to me.
It makes me sad that my husband has accomplished this AWESOME once in a lifetime thing and this trip will be remembered for the 4 day Jefe tantrum 2026. Trying to not let him ruin this for my husband.
I’m also pregnant, which makes this 1000x more overstimulating, and I’m one minor inconvenience away from telling “jefe” exactly what I think of him😇
Anyway I have 1.5 days left. Pray for me.