u/SadButterscotch4740

i (20f) sleep in the same bed with him very often, i don’t technically live with him but i sleep over like 4-5 times a week, so i do in a way. we’ve been talking for 5-6 months, and started dating officially a month or two ago. his sheets aren’t washed enough, neither are his clothes or pillow cases in my opinion. he doesn’t have his own washer or a dresser. he goes to his mom’s house to wash his clothes, as they live in the same neighborhood. i don’t want to overstep or be disrespectful. he does so much for me, like drives me to and from his house because i don’t drive yet. but i have ocd tendencies (diagnosed) and recently i saw a flea on me and it’s just driving me crazy. but i just really want him to start using some kind of dandruff focused shampoo and conditioner, he’s always scratching his head and it just drives me crazy. how can i cuddle with him knowing that he is getting his dandruff in My Hair? i have tried to ignore it this whole time but honestly i hate to see him itching. men please tell me what to do… i love him so much, he’s so good to me and i just want to support him as best as possible… thank you!!

i (20f) sleep in the same bed with him (20m) very often, i don’t technically live with him but i sleep over like 4-5 times a week, so i do in a way. we’ve been talking for 5-6 months, and started dating officially a month or two ago. his sheets aren’t washed enough, neither are his clothes or pillow cases in my opinion. he doesn’t have his own washer or a dresser. he goes to his mom’s house to wash his clothes, as they live in the same neighborhood. i don’t want to overstep or be disrespectful. he does so much for me, like drives me to and from his house because i don’t drive yet. but i have ocd tendencies (diagnosed) and recently i saw a flea on me and it’s just driving me crazy. but i just really want him to start using some kind of dandruff focused shampoo and conditioner, he’s always scratching his head and it just drives me crazy. how can i cuddle with him knowing that he is getting his dandruff in My Hair? i have tried to ignore it this whole time but honestly i hate to see him itching. how do i lovingly approach this? also, extra context, he works in trades. okay, thank you lovely men! please give me kind and thoughtful advice about this situation….