u/Rich_Perspective9063

Okay, so I’m genuinely looking for advice and a more neutral opinion, which is why I’m here.

I met this guy a few months ago at a social thing. Not gonna go into details but wanna say that he was not pushy at all and has been really respectful. And that’s basically how he’s been the entire time. He’s genuinely been nothing but nice, which honestly makes me feel worse about this whole situation.

We exchanged socials, started texting, and we’ve gone out quite a few times now. I did enjoy his company, like I’m not gonna lie about that. But it was also kind of obvious from early on that he’s way more into me than I’m into him.

For context, this is my first… anything, honestly. I don’t even know if I should call it a relationship because literally nothing has happened. I’ve never been in one before, so I don’t know if that’s affecting how I feel or what I’m expecting to feel. He, on the other hand, has had a long-term relationship before.

And when I say nothing happened, I mean nothing not even kissing. Which I’m actually glad about because I was kind of stressed about that, and he never pushed anything.

But yeah, it’s been several months, and I still feel like… nothing is really coming out of this? I like talking to him, I like being around him, but it doesn’t feel like more than that. I don’t know if it’s lack of attraction or what, I just don’t feel the way I think I’m supposed to. i think…

So now I feel like it’s kind of my turn to do something, and I genuinely don’t know what.

I feel really bad because he’s such a nice person and hasn’t done anything wrong. But at the same time, I feel like I might just be dragging this out and kind of leading him on without meaning to.

Also, my closest friend who’s known about this the whole time keeps warning (regarding this situation and in general also) me that I’m kind of a people pleaser and shy, and that I might end up in a situation I don’t actually want just because I didn’t speak up. Which yeah lowkay true.

And I feel like I’m making it sound like I don’t like him, which isn’t true. I really do like him. He’s a great person.
And recently this song “Hate Yourself” by TV Girl has been stuck in my head and there’s this line like “you’d fall in love with anyone who fall in love with you.” And ofc im not talking about love in my situation, but it made me think what if part of the reason I liked him is just because he liked me first? I genuinely don’t know.

Now I’m just confused. Writing this made me even more confused.
I keep waiting for someone to just tell me exactly how to act, but I also know no one’s going to, because it’s my life and I got myself into this situation and have to deal with this myself

So yeah. I don’t know. I’m just very confused person overall and I’m pretty sure that shows.
I just need some outside perspective.

Thanks loves for reading my ramblings

Okay, so I’m genuinely looking for advice and a more neutral opinion, which is why I’m here.

I met this guy a few months ago at a social thing. Not gonna go into details but wanna say that he was not pushy at all and has been really respectful. And that’s basically how he’s been the entire time. He’s genuinely been nothing but nice, which honestly makes me feel worse about this whole situation.

We exchanged socials, started texting, and we’ve gone out quite a few times now. I did enjoy his company, like I’m not gonna lie about that. But it was also kind of obvious from early on that he’s way more into me than I’m into him.

For context, this is my first… anything, honestly. I don’t even know if I should call it a relationship because literally nothing has happened. I’ve never been in one before, so I don’t know if that’s affecting how I feel or what I’m expecting to feel. He, on the other hand, has had a long-term relationship before.

And when I say nothing happened, I mean nothing not even kissing. Which I’m actually glad about because I was kind of stressed about that, and he never pushed anything.

But yeah, it’s been several months, and I still feel like… nothing is really coming out of this? I like talking to him, I like being around him, but it doesn’t feel like more than that. I don’t know if it’s lack of attraction or what, I just don’t feel the way I think I’m supposed to. i think…

So now I feel like it’s kind of my turn to do something, and I genuinely don’t know what.

I feel really bad because he’s such a nice person and hasn’t done anything wrong. But at the same time, I feel like I might just be dragging this out and kind of leading him on without meaning to.

Also, my closest friend who’s known about this the whole time keeps warning (regarding this situation and in general also) me that I’m kind of a people pleaser and shy, and that I might end up in a situation I don’t actually want just because I didn’t speak up. Which yeah lowkay true.

And I feel like I’m making it sound like I don’t like him, which isn’t true. I really do like him. He’s a great person.
And recently this song “Hate Yourself” by TV Girl has been stuck in my head and there’s this line like “you’d fall in love with anyone who fall in love with you.” And ofc im not talking about love in my situation, but it made me think what if part of the reason I liked him is just because he liked me first? I genuinely don’t know.

Now I’m just confused. Writing this made me even more confused.
I keep waiting for someone to just tell me exactly how to act, but I also know no one’s going to, because it’s my life and I got myself into this situation and have to deal with this myself

So yeah. I don’t know. I’m just very confused person overall and I’m pretty sure that shows.
I just need some outside perspective.

Thanks loves for reading my ramblings