u/Radiant-Selection107

I F21 went to a bar and played pool with a bunch of strangers. Men bought me drinks and i got flirty with one in particular and we kissed. we got fairly drunk and ended up at his place. we kissed again for only 30 seconds before he took out his junk and demanded i touch it. i panicked and said i had to go. he blocked my way and repeatedly took my hand to his dih while i resisted. I pretended like i was gonna stay and as soon as he moved from the door i bolted. i ran as fast as i could before he had time to get dressed and follow me. he tried chasing me down and i lost him. i stumbled 30 min home and im still drunk and gonna sleep it off.

i’m aware that we were gonna have do it but it was the lack of foreplay that made me wanna leave. we kissed for 30 secs and BAM his junk was out.

I was SA’d by an ex bf several times few months ago and again by a stranger on a night out a month ago and i couldn’t escape that time. i Thiught i was gonna be ok this time but i got anxiety at sex. i keep putting myself in these situations in hopes of regaining control it’s ever so confusing when will i ever learn

I F21 went to a bar and played pool with a bunch of strangers. Men bought me drinks and i got flirty with one in particular and we kissed. we got fairly drunk and ended up at his place. we kissed again for only 30 seconds before he took out his junk and demanded i touch it. i panicked and said i had to go. he blocked my way and repeatedly took my hand to his dih while i resisted. I pretended like i was gonna stay and as soon as he moved from the door i bolted. i ran as fast as i could before he had time to get dressed and follow me. he tried chasing me down and i lost him. i stumbled 30 min home and im still drunk and gonna sleep it off.

i’m aware that we were gonna have do it but it was the lack of foreplay that made me wanna leave. we kissed for 30 secs and BAM his junk was out.

I was SA’d by an ex bf several times few months ago and again by a stranger on a night out a month ago and i couldn’t escape that time. i Thiught i was gonna be ok this time but i got anxiety at sex. i keep putting myself in these situations in hopes of regaining control it’s ever so confusing when will i ever learn

I F21 went to a bar and played pool with a bunch of strangers. Men bought me drinks and i got flirty with one in particular and we kissed. we got fairly drunk and ended up at his place. we kissed again for only 30 seconds before he took out his junk and demanded i touch it. i panicked and said i had to go. he blocked my way and repeatedly took my hand to his dih while i resisted. I pretended like i was gonna stay and as soon as he moved from the door i bolted. i ran as fast as i could before he had time to get dressed and follow me. he tried chasing me down and i lost him. i stumbled 30 min home and im still drunk and gonna sleep it off.

i’m aware that we were gonna have sex but it was the lack of foreplay that gave me an ick made me wanna leave. we kissed for 30 secs and BAM his junk was out.

I was SA’d by an ex bf several times few months ago and again by a stranger on a night out a month ago and i couldn’t escape that time. i Thiught i was gonna be ok this time but i got anxiety at sex. i keep putting myself in these situations in hopes of regaining control it’s ever so confusing when will i ever learn. Can someone help me understand why i have the urge to recreate the past by putting myself in dangerous situations?

I F21 went to a bar and played pool with a bunch of strangers. Men bought me drinks and i got flirty with one in particular and we kissed. we got fairly drunk and ended up at his place. we kissed again for only 30 seconds before he took out his junk and demanded i touch it. i panicked and said i had to go. he blocked my way and repeatedly took my hand to his dih while i resisted. I pretended like i was gonna stay and as soon as he moved from the door i bolted. i ran as fast as i could before he had time to get dressed and follow me. he tried chasing me down and i lost him. i stumbled 30 min home and im still drunk and gonna sleep it off.

I was SA’d on a night out a month ago and couldn’t escape that time. i Thiught i was gonna be ok this time but i got anxiety at sex. i keep putting myself in these situations when will i ever learn.

Last year on my 21st birthday my boyfriend (28M) completely forgot. He went to work that morning without saying happy birthday, no card, no text, nothing.

By around 3pm I went to pick him up from work and I was already upset because at that point it was obvious he forgot. When I confronted him, instead of apologising properly he turned it around on me and basically lectured me. He said that if I had stayed quiet, he “would have eventually remembered himself and apologised,” but because I brought it up and got upset, I “ruined my own birthday at 3pm.”

I ended up telling him to go back to his place. He left, then came back later with some cheap flowers, but it felt really forced and like he was only doing it because he got caught forgetting. I didn’t even put them in water because by then I just felt emotionally checked out. After that he left again and went back to his place.

Whenever there’s conflict, he never addressed it and it just blew over after a few days of separation.

What also bothers me is that this isn’t even the first time I’ve felt unheard by him. He has never written me a card, even though I’ve explicitly told him multiple times how much handwritten cards mean to me. I keep cards from my close friends and he’s literally seen my collection and knows they’re sentimental to me, but he still never makes that effort.

My 22nd is in a few days and instead of waiting around and getting disappointed by him, I made plans with my girls 💅😌. When he asked me what i wanna do this year I said I already have plans. He then asked if I could fit him in for a few hours to take me out.

Now I’m sitting here wondering if I’m overreacting or if this is actually as hurtful as it feels. I know people can forget dates sometimes, but I can’t get over the fact that he made my reaction the problem instead of just owning it and apologising.