u/Quirky-Sport-9006

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im a 29 year old guy and I've never had a girlfriend, never had a kiss never been on a date, the whole shebang. And I'm convinced that not a single woman has ever been interested in me interacting with her romantically.

you'll see those posts on here about guys telling stories about signals they've missed from women, and how obvious it was looking back, but I do not have a single one of these moments in my life to reflect on. every interaction I've ever had with women has been purely platonic, so I know it really can't be that. you can say that I still must be missing the signals but I find it impossibly unlikely that I cannot recall a single time it has happened in my entire life

I remember back in high school and in college I would ask some women I thought were cute out and never was able to connect with any of them on a deeper level and/get a date. but I'm great friends with some of these women to this day and I appreciate our friendships greatly.

when I was about 21 I heard the advice that when a woman is into you, she'll make it obvious, by doing things like making herself more available for you to talk to her when you are in a public setting like work, laughing at your stupid unfunny jokes, holding eye contact for a little longer than normal, smiling when they see you things like that ect,

and that you should really only be pursuing women that give you these signals like this. so I stopped asking women out and decided to wait until I met a woman that showed me some signals that they want to be asked out.

8 years later and I'm still waiting. I haven't seen this kind of energy/body language displayed toward me by a woman a single time, ive met a lot of women due to my job (I play drums full time in a metal band) but every interaction is always purely platonic.

there has never been a single moment where a woman I have built a rapport with by interacting with them multiple times over the course of an extended amount of time, has shown me that they were interested in me asking them out on a date, being sexual or something of the sorts. they are always so closed off with me.

it's like I'm completely invisible and asexual to women. and it hurts, I'm going to be 30 and I have the romantic experience of a 15 year old

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im a 29 year old guy and I've never had a girlfriend, never had a kiss never been on a date, the whole shebang. And I'm convinced that not a single woman has ever been interested in me interacting with her romantically.

you'll see those posts on here about guys telling stories about signals they've missed from women, and how obvious it was looking back, but I do not have a single one of these moments in my life to reflect on. every interaction I've ever had with women has been purely platonic, so I know it really can't be that. you can say that I still must be missing the signals but I find it impossibly unlikely that I cannot recall a single time it has happened in my entire life

I remember back in high school and in college I would ask some women I thought were cute out and never was able to connect with any of them on a deeper level and/get a date. but I'm great friends with some of these women to this day and I appreciate our friendships greatly.

when I was about 21 I heard the advice that when a woman is into you, she'll make it obvious, by doing things like making herself more available for you to talk to her when you are in a public setting like work, laughing at your stupid unfunny jokes, holding eye contact for a little longer than normal, smiling when they see you things like that ect,

and that you should really only be pursuing women that give you these signals like this. so I stopped asking women out and decided to wait until I met a woman that showed me some signals that they want to be asked out.

8 years later and I'm still waiting. I haven't seen this kind of energy/body language displayed toward me by a woman a single time, ive met a lot of women due to my job (I play drums full time in a metal band) but every interaction is always purely platonic.

there has never been a single moment where a woman I have built a rapport with by interacting with them multiple times over the course of an extended amount of time, has shown me that they were interested in me asking them out on a date, being sexual or something of the sorts. they are always so closed off with me.

it's like I'm completely invisible and asexual to women. and it hurts, I'm going to be 30 and I have the romantic experience of a 15 year old