u/QuirklessShiggy

So we've already found a couple alternatives we like, but we want to make sure we are fully decided on an app before fully inputting information.

So far the two alternatives we've liked most are Constellations and Pluralspace, though we've mainly used pluralspace as we enjoy their relationship map maker better (we personally find it annoying to use on Constellations unfortunately)

But are there any other good alternatives we should check out before deciding?

If it helps, the main features we enjoy are:

- Custom Fields

- Working groups/tags

- Relationship mapping (or even just a list on each profile showing relationships, doesn't have to be a map)

- Ability to write journals to traumadump in (This means the journal needs to be fully private and we need to be allowed to talk about taboo trauma topics in our private journal) (Ability to give journals tags is a plus but not a requirement!)

- Specific section for roles tag similar to pluralspace (this would be nice to have, but not a requirement, since we can achieve this ourselves via custom fields if needed)

- We are willing to use browser if needed, but would prefer platforms that have both web and app versions and sync across each other, as we tend to use our PC for information input and then mobile for small edits, showing fiance things, etc. Totally okay if an app version is planned but not yet released as well, as I know a lot of these platforms are very new, and making an app and getting it onto stores takes time.

- Ability to have friends who can see system information you allow them to see (Another one that would be nice, but not required)

- Habits/Task list. We haven't seen a platform have this, but it's something we've thought about and think would be cool to have if any platform has done it!

I don't really care about front tracking features as we don't use them (we forget to update after switches anyway, so it's not useful for us). We mainly use these platforms for information keeping, memory writing, traumadumps, etc.

PLEASE don't suggest AI coded platforms. We are not willing to argue about this, it is our personal preference for our safety and peace of mind.

Thank you friends :D

So I've noticed sometimes, OCD fears can be partially comforted by the fact that they will likely never actually happen. Especially when one is in recovery, they can take comfort in the fact that their fear will never happen and re-trigger their OCD (though other things might). And when I'm looking at some OCD stuff, the theme of "your fear won't happen, its unrealistic because that's what OCD does" is common.

The issue with this is... My fear *will* happen eventually. Multiple times. My whole life. My OCD causing fear is around cold sores. I've had cold sores my whole life, with infrequent outbreaks (used to be once a year, seems to be longer this time). But it will happen, likely multiple times, throughout my life. And I'm scared that every time it happens, it'll re-trigger the OCD. I never had this issue with previous sores, but for some reason my last sore triggered this OCD. I'm still trying to recover like 2 years later, and I'm so scared that I'll end up in recovery/finally feeling free of the OCD (i know it can never be "cured" but it can be managed) and then have a sore and it re-trigger everything and set me back to square one...

How do you deal with this? How do you keep a triggering event from re-triggering when it happens again?