u/Proof_Caregiver_4234

​Hello everyone, ​I’ve been thinking about the "moral cost" of reality TV and out of curiosity; what is a show you find genuinely enjoyable or entertaining, but you know you could never actually be a contestant on because it would compromise your morals or your sense of self?

​For me, it’s Secret Millionaire on Netflix (and similar shows involving social deception). I find these shows very engaging due to the tension, the trivia, and the clashing personalities. It’s fascinating to watch the strategy unfold.

However, as much as I enjoy the show, I could never participate. To win, you often have to become deceitful, manipulative, or outright lie to people you’ve built a connection with. For me, that’s a complete dealbreaker. I value authenticity and honesty too much to "turn them off" for a game, even for a significant prize. It’s a strange feeling to be entertained by something that contradicts my core values so much! I believe it remains engaging due to the inherent psychological challenges participants must navigate. A noticeable observation I have came across on this series is that upon securing the million-dollar prize, the winners often exhibit a subdued reaction, as if their genuine happiness is being suppressed. I believe this stems from the arduous and ethically compromising actions they undertook to achieve the victory, effectively equating to a significant "selling out."

​Do you have a "guilty pleasure" show like this? A show where you’d be the first to lose because you refused to cross a moral line? Please let me know :)

We often find ourselves loving individuals to the best of our abilities. As INFJs, we are emotional beings who experience profound feelings, often leading us to empower those we genuinely care for. Personally, I find it difficult to imagine falling out of love with someone if I have genuinely loved them before. The cherished memories and the significant role they played in a chapter of my life would remain. While I may not love them in the same romantic way, perhaps a more platonic or wholesome affection could endure. Maybe I'm speaking out of lack of experience. Nevertheless, I'm curious to know your thoughts on this question.

Hello everyone, I had an interesting thought. I believe I possess this nature, but I tend to share my thoughts only when prompted, rather than unsolicited. Nevertheless, people in my social circle and even those who are not well-acquainted with me often find my perspectives and opinions on various subjects to be engaging, as they perceive them as authentic and distinct from commonly encountered viewpoints. It is statistically that we are considered the rarest personality type in the world. However, the existence of a large community on Reddit where we can exchange numerous thoughts has led me to pose this question, as it is uncommon to encounter individuals with the same personality type as myself outside of this particular sub. But I believe the main reason that we tend to have such strong opinions is because we can also see from different perspectives, which is a gift in itself.

Hello everyone. I haven't posted or commented frequently until recently, as I've been observing the environment within this community. I tend to be more of an observer rather than someone who frequently speaks on such matters. However, I've felt compelled to do so now, just to see if there are any differences in thoughts or opinions based on what I'm about to share. Please be advised that the following content may be sensitive for some readers. My intention is not to create a negative environment, but rather to invite thoughts and opinions on these topics.

It is widely understood that this community exists for reasons distinct from the main subreddit, which may not accurately reflect the community's true nature. I believe that initiating this discussion was a positive step, as external observers might perceive it as a contradiction, confusion, or illogical, potentially leading them to believe our experiences are not genuine. However, I do not concur with every sentiment expressed within this community. I personally identify as an individualist and possess my own unique perspectives, much like anyone else. I wonder if I can relate more closely to this community than to others, as I believe the etymology of asexuality is correctly applied here, signifying an absence of sexual attraction. The challenge arises when a community contains numerous sub-communities; at what point do we establish boundaries? The extensive division and numerous distinctions can make it considerably more perplexing than necessary. In my opinion, those who engage in certain sexual activities, experience arousal, or masturbate may not fully comprehend what it means to be ace.

I must be honest I do not consider myself to be a part of the LGBT community, as I identify as heteroromantic. Furthermore, I do not truly meet the criteria of what an ace person typically looks like, which, of course, there is no "certain look." It is important to approach this topic with honesty and recognize that some individuals who identify as asexual may be experiencing a period of uncertainty. While there might be a potential correlation between asexuality and mental health or trauma, it is unlikely to be universally applicable, and this is where the discussion can become more nuanced.

I joined this community because, in terms of ace terminology, we share similar perspectives compared to other groups. However, in my personal opinion, I do not feel the need for a specific month or flag to represent who I am. This is not because I dislike being ace, but rather because I am more so a privateperson in these matters. Instead, I prefer to share this information only with those who can relate and with individuals within my close circle. However, this does not imply that the ace spectrum should remain unknown, for how can individuals ascertain their true belonging within the community if they lack knowledge or understanding of it?

Nevertheless, if any of you hold a different view, I am certainly not attempting to dictate what you should or should not do. Finding someone who can effectively advocate for this community is quite complex due to the diverse perspectives I have mentioned. The Ace spectrum and community encompass such a wide range of diversity that finding a perfect advocate who can address all aspects and be universally accepted is highly improbable.

I would appreciate it if you could share your perspectives on why you hold a particular viewpoint, whether in agreement or disagreement. My intention is to foster a discussion rather than engage in debates. Might get banned on this sub, which is not what I intended.

Have you taken noticed?

Have you seen the world around you?

How our sadness is but a minuscule inconvenience;

A slight friction for the rest of the world. ​

How our hearts are broken by the loss Of someone who truly meant so much,

That living seems unimaginable,

And happiness, unattainable.

​You weep every single day

Until you question your very existence.

Every day, and each day,

You search for strength where none remains.

​Yet the world around you keeps moving.

Neighbors commemorate a birthday;

A colleague announces an engagement;

A friend achieves a resolution.

​Because today’s news is yesterday’s news.

Because people do not stop living

Simply because you have.

Your melancholy possesses no power Over the lives of others. ​

Yet you feel otherwise. And we do, too.

Poem by: Proof_caregiver_4234

Hello! I'm curious to know if there are any ESFJs here, as I don't believe I've met any. Out of curiosity, I went on their sub and didn't see much interaction there. Tell me, what's it like being an ESFJ or anything in general!