r/actualasexuals

I hate how normalized sex is in this world to get the label turned into this... and if you don't participate in it or want to at all, something is literally wrong with you.

This label has been turned into such a JOKE. At this point, they're literally no different than any other allo?

"It's just another day in the office". No it's not like that AT ALL. Your body is being used in an activity you shouldn't even want to participate in. Why would you want to put yourself through that, even for money, if you don't feel any sexual attraction/sexual desire for anyone? Why do that to yourself? At least working a job at the office doesn't get your body used like that...

And if you DO feel sexual attraction/sexual desire then you're on the greysexual spectrum NOT the ace spectrum!

I want our label back 😭 Thank you for this sub, I'm sooo grateful it exists.

Might get blasted by some people, idk, others like it, but I really don’t. It looks too similar to the non binary flag, and now people will understand us even less. I really don’t see anything wrong with the original. Not replacing the original flag pin on my backpack with this… I feel bad, but I just don’t get why we needed the change, I don’t. 😭

I just made these step up myself but it's a framework for acceptance by the general public.

1. Information and Awareness: Let people know what an asexual is and what asexuality is. <---- we are here
2. Passive Tolerance: The general public knows what asexuality is and tolerates the lifestyle of asexuals. (People may not accept asexuality as a sexuality at this stage but they will begrudgingly allow their lifestyle, live and let live.)
3. Inclusivity and Acknowledgement: Included in the LGBTQ+ community and acknowledged as a real sexuality.
4. Acceptance: Asexuality is accepted as a real sexuality and non-sexual partnerships are recognized as genuine loving viable relationships.

​​Let's be real here. People still don't know what asexuality is. There's so much confusion and various vague ideas of what makes someone asexual. People still don't understand the difference between sexual attraction, libido, and sexual desire. There are people who feel as if being hypersexual and sexually insatiable is what makes someone allosexual and if you spend anytime at all not wanting/thinking about sex you must be asexual. It is my opinion that acceptance is just not the goal the asexual community should be reaching for at this moment in time. Of course, it's a long term goal but right now we should focus on information and awareness. AVEN and asexual youtube videos has done so much damage to the meaning of asexuality that it is going to take awhile for us to fix this before we can even think of acceptance. It's hard for the public to accept something that has no real meaning. If I say "I'm asexual" to someone, they don't know if that means I feel sexual attraction sometimes, I feel it after romantic attachments, or I feel it when the moon is full. They don't know if that means I have sex or if I don't. The term "asexual" gives people 0 information on the person saying it. Acceptance can't come before understanding.

I scroll subreddits of this show to discuss its characters sometimes, but everytime this comes up. And always on main subs, where the majority of community resides, no less.

*Deep sigh*