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i have a long time friend for close to 5 years

lets call her mary

in 2023 i went through a whole phase of decentre men and feminist awakening all that

now atp i dont think the friendship is viable

lemme start with questionable things, for context we are all africans and christians but im slowly deconstructing

She has been such a good friend to me but ngl i really cant stand to be around such an anti feminist and its like me discussing how men are terrible irks her

Like we have discussed these things before but even if we come to a resolution i dont think i would want to continue a relationship with someone who airs me for weeks at a time, asks for updates then ghosts me afterwards

i dont want the frienship to end but i cant do this anymore

1. Posted an allie beth stucky post where she was commenting that a boy being told to nurture a doll is unnatural and my friend said feminism is a disease
2. Trump supporter
3. Hasnt replied to my messages from last year and i get that she works but she really is male centred bc when our other friend would air us to talk to her man she got pissed but when it her its not a problem
4. I said all rapists should die and she said she would marry one if he repented
5. Believes some women lie about being raped
6. I worked with SA survivors and i told her about a woman who got raped at 3 different stages in life and she said what is it about that woman that attracts rapists
7. A mutual friend of ours( mainly mine) was raped by her boyfriend and she said why didnt she scream or fight back mind you she is like sabrina carpenter tiny and he is built like the Rock
8. We had a chat about modesty bc our school wanted to implement a dress code and she said all the girls at our school are casted as whores bc of our dressing and i was like you will be called a whore no matter what
9. Believes in feminine and masculine energy and that a woman isnt complete without a man

i have a long time friend for close to 5 years

lets call her mary

in 2023 i went through a whole phase of decentre men and feminist awakening all that

now atp i dont think the friendship is viable

lemme start with questionable things, for context we are all africans and christians but im slowly deconstructing

She has been such a good friend to me but ngl i really cant stand to be around such an anti feminist and its like me discussing how men are terrible irks her

Like we have discussed these things before but even if we come to a resolution i dont think i would want to continue a relationship with someone who airs me for weeks at a time, asks for updates then ghosts me afterwards

i dont want the frienship to end but i cant do this anymore

1. Posted an allie beth stucky post where she was commenting that a boy being told to nurture a doll is unnatural and my friend said feminism is a disease
2. Hasnt replied to my messages from last year and i get that she works but she really is male centred bc when our other friend would air us to talk to her man she got pissed but when it her its not a problem
3. I said all rapists should die and she said she would marry one if he repented
4. Believes some women lie about being raped
5. I worked with SA survivors and i told her about a woman who got raped at 3 different stages in life and she said what is it about that woman that attracts rapists
6. A mutual friend of ours( mainly mine) was raped by her boyfriend and she said why didnt she scream or fight back mind you she is like sabrina carpenter tiny and he is built like the Rock
7. We had a chat about modesty bc our school wanted to implement a dress code and she said all the girls at our school are casted as whores bc of our dressing and i was like you will be called a whore no matter what
8. Believes in feminine and masculine energy and that a woman isnt complete without a man

just ran my dissertation on grammarly and got flagged for 57 %
the more that i rephrase the more i get flagged idk what do

at my school if they just run it in turnitin and its more than 25% its over

idek what to do

if anyone wants to run my thing through turn it in pro i would appreciate it

i cant afford it