Feeling icky after overhearing a conversation
So I was at an all girls gathering with my mom and her friends along with their daughters and typically the older women hang out in their own area while us younger girls go do our own thing. This time around they were downstairs while we were upstairs. Anyways I started heading downstairs to grab a drink when I overheard the women gossiping about US specifically.
They were basically comparing their unmarried daughters at this gathering saying things like “Oh [name] knows how to cook desi food now, she’s 100% ready to be a wife” or “[Other name] should grow out her hair if she wants to get married, she looks too boyish” and it was this whole discussion on the things us girls needs to do to get married ASAP. I heard my own mom say that I need to lose weight to get married, which wasn’t surprising (she’s my biggest hater fr) but still stung nonetheless. Also some of the comments were highkey gross like one auntie was like “[Name] is very curvy and has fair skin, she’ll have no trouble getting married since that’s what all men seek” 🤮
I ended up just standing at the stairs for like 5-10 minutes just listening before I actually grabbed my drink lol. I just feel super icky now because we were literally being talked about like someone determining the value of their potential purchase. I wish so many women didn’t equate our worth to having the traits that are the most pleasing to men…