u/Possible-Chipmunk856

Is this considered cheating

I (18F)found out my boyfriend(19M) subscribed to 13 girls on OnlyFans. I saw messages of him flirting with them, and the girls were sending explicit pictures/videos back. What hurts even more is that he once told me if I ever made an OnlyFans account, he would break up with me immediately.

He’s currently away at AIT for the military, so I have to wait until Friday to confront him in person. I talked to his mom about it because I honestly feel shattered, and she told me it’s “not cheating” and that he loves me so much. But I genuinely feel betrayed and sick over this.

I love him a lot, but this completely broke my trust. I can’t stop thinking about the double standard and the fact that he hid this from me while acting like it would be unacceptable if the roles were reversed.

Am I overreacting? What would you do in this situation?

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u/Possible-Chipmunk856 — 2 days ago
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Is this Cheating

I (18F)found out my boyfriend(19M) subscribed to 13 girls on OnlyFans. I saw messages of him flirting with them, and the girls were sending explicit pictures/videos back. What hurts even more is that he once told me if I ever made an OnlyFans account, he would break up with me immediately.

He’s currently away at AIT for the military, so I have to wait until Friday to confront him in person. I talked to his mom about it because I honestly feel shattered, and she told me it’s “not cheating” and that he loves me so much. But I genuinely feel betrayed and sick over this.

I love him a lot, but this completely broke my trust. I can’t stop thinking about the double standard and the fact that he hid this from me while acting like it would be unacceptable if the roles were reversed.

Am I overreacting? What would you do in this situation?

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u/Possible-Chipmunk856 — 2 days ago