u/PossessionOk110

Last night our downstairs (apartment) neighbors had a party. They moved in a few months ago and have thrown parties before. It doesn’t really bother me or my bf but I know the two people they’re connected to have babies, one family has a toddler as well. They were really loud last night, laughing and screaming (group of at least 10-12 people, maybe more), outside our staircase for 3 hours. At 11:15 I told my boyfriend it was ridiculous, other people live here and if he could ask them to keep it down. They don’t speak English, great. For reference I am fluent in Spanish, already heard them talking bad about me (thinking I don’t understand) so I was already pissed that’s why I asked him to go.

Anyways, they went inside within 15 minutes after. By 11:30 it was quiet. But on the way to work my boyfriend realized one of his tires was extremely low. Never had this issue before. The cap on the tire is missing too, so we feel like this was intentional. The group did see us getting in and out of the car because we had to walk through them twice. Is there anything we can actually do about this?

I’ve posted on here about my mother wanting money from me before, but I stopped that, and this is completely different.

We live in a big party town. My mom is 50F and I am 26F. She always asks me to go to clubs because she has issues with her friends or boyfriend, and she’s always been a partier, but this past Saturday she really wanted me to go with her.

For more context, she has kicked me out, has threatened to call cops on me, is mean to me every time I see her. My boyfriend literally said she has no problem hurting my feelings so I should say no to going out if I don’t want to go. Which I have said no, several times. She jokes that I hate clubbing and I’m too reserved and it makes me feel like something is wrong with me.

I have my own hobbies. I love making international food, I love baking, I have an etsy for my herbal salves and I love helping people. It makes me feel so lame that I don’t like going out.

Besides from how I feel, this is where the meat gets in the sandwich. I talked her into going to a bar instead of club. We got bar burgers and I ordered one for my boyfriend that he could eat for lunch tomorrow at his own work. They said because it’s a deal I can’t take it to go, which I’ve never heard of before but ok. Anyways my mom tries to get me to eat this whole burger. After I just ate. And getting increasingly mad as I keep saying I’m too full to eat that. She gets up and leaves the restauraunt. She drove me there. I get up and go outside and have a panic attack with my boyfriend on the phone, who picks me up, who should be sleeping because he works early. I don’t think she paid. It was awful.

I left the family group chat because they don’t respond to my messages and I blocked my mom because I’m completely over everything.

What upsets me most is she doesn’t respect when I say no. It’s not no with a question mark. I mean what I say. I hate feeling pulled back and forth

Mainly just looking for opinions because I feel crazy and lame and my best friend just had her second baby. I have no one to talk to

I think our neighbors or their friends let air out of our car’s tire