u/Perfect-Split496

In my mind this isn't petty, but it's definitely revenge. I was in a relationship with a narcissist. Not the way we casually throw the word around, but a true personality disorder.

I didn't know this at first because the idealization phase is so convincing. But once that phase ended, the relationship became challenging (lies, volatility, suspected infidelity) so I ended it.

Over two weeks he begged and pleaded for a second chance. Apology cards left on my car, long texts about learning his lesson, tearful voicemails. Eventually I was convinced and gave him a second chance.

Things were better at first, but eventually it was right back to the same issues. So I gave him an ultimatum, including personal therapy and access to his phone right there on the spot. He said yes to everything until I got to the phone. So of course my Spidy senses started tingling because I had found things in his phone before that were suspicious but explained away. 

Eventually he gave me his phone (after trying to covertly delete conversations) and I left him in my apartment so I could go through every pixel. I found everything. I went back to the beginning of our relationship and saw texts, DMs, Snapchats, dating apps that proved he had been cheating the entire time, including with one of his patients (he was a physical therapist). 

When I returned home to confront him he exploded, and actually grabbed me and put his arm around my neck to get the phone back. I wasn't hurt, but definitely rattled. Eventually I got him out of the house and knew I'd never talk to him again or see him again.

Until I got a subpoena ordering me to a protective order hearing. This psycho told the judge I stole his phone and assaulted him when he was the one who assaulted me. And it worked. He got the protective order. 

Then he took out an assault charge against me. A conviction would have ended my career, which was very lucrative and hard earned. So I fought back. 

I had been secretly recording our fights to make sense of everything because he was an expert gaslighter. I had taken pictures of the aftermath of the fight over his phone. I had also sent screenshots of the conversation with his patient from his phone to mine.

I made a binder of evidence and took out 13 charges, including 2 felonies. I got a temporary restraining order and a hearing to make it permanent. I sent the screenshots of his conversations with his patient to his licensing board and his job. 

We had a long legal battle. He was investigated by his board and lost his license. Then he lost his job. When he and his lawyer realized I had recordings showing who the screaming, verbally abusive antagonist was, he paid my $10,500 in attorney fees for us both dropping the charges and protective orders. 

Then I took him to civil court for $12,500 for property damage and won. He sent threatening texts because of that so I took out additional charges and he was convicted. And I was given a two year protective order. 

Now he's jobless, broke, lives with his mom and is on probation.

I was in a relationship with a narcissist. Not the way we casually throw the word around, but a true personality disorder.

I didn't know this at first because the idealization phase is so convincing. But once that phase ended, the relationship became challenging (lies, volatility, suspected infidelity) so I ended it.

Over two weeks he begged and pleaded for a second chance. Apology cards left on my car, long texts about learning his lesson, tearful voicemails. Eventually I was convinced and gave him a second chance.

Things were better at first, but eventually it was right back to the same issues. So I gave him an ultimatum, including personal therapy and access to his phone right there on the spot. He said yes to everything until I got to the phone. So of course my Spidy senses started tingling because I had found things in his phone before that were suspicious but explained away. 

Eventually he gave me his phone (after trying to covertly delete conversations) and I left him in my apartment so I could go through every pixel. I found everything. I went back to the beginning of our relationship and saw texts, DMs, Snapchats, dating apps that proved he had been cheating the entire time, including with one of his patients (he was a physical therapist). 

When I returned home to confront him he exploded, and actually grabbed me and put his arm around my neck to get the phone back. I wasn't hurt, but definitely rattled. Eventually I got him out of the house and knew I'd never talk to him again or see him again.

Until I got a subpoena ordering me to a protective order hearing. This psycho told the judge I stole his phone and assaulted him when he was the one who assaulted me. And it worked. He got the protective order. 

Then he took out an assault charge against me. A conviction would have ended my career, which was very lucrative and hard earned. So I fought back. 

I had been secretly recording our fights to make sense of everything because he was an expert gaslighter. I had taken pictures of the aftermath of the fight over his phone. I had also sent screenshots of the conversation with his patient from his phone to mine.

I made a binder of evidence and took out 13 charges, including 2 felonies. I got a temporary restraining order and a hearing to make it permanent. I sent the screenshots of his conversations with his patient to his licensing board and his job. 

We had a long legal battle. He was investigated by his board and lost his license. Then he lost his job. When he and his lawyer realized I had recordings showing who the screaming, verbally abusive antagonist was, he paid my $10,500 in attorney fees for us both dropping the charges and protective orders. 

Then I took him to civil court for $12,500 for property damage and won. He sent threatening texts because of that so I took out additional charges and he was convicted. And I was given a two year protective order. 

Now he's jobless, broke, lives with his mom and is on probation. AITAH?