u/Over-Coat2985

It’s clear to me that I’m happiest when I’m single and I mean fully single, not dating or entertaining guys whatsoever. I can’t think of a benefit having a boyfriend would ever bring. Except when it comes to holidays, like long weekends or my birthday. I don’t have many friends. The ones I do have are closer with other friends who they celebrate holidays with.
I’m not close with my family.

So when it comes to long weekends and I see everyone else having fun with partners, friends or family, I feel really sad. Don’t get me wrong, I love being alone and have done lots alone, including travel. But humans are social creatures and on occasions where everyone else is among company, I can’t help but feel isolated. Not just romantically but socially in general.

With autism, I’ve found dating significantly easier than making friends due to the structured nature of it, and the default closeness of a partner vs friend. And the one on one dynamic is something I’m much more comfortable with. So as much as I love being single, I miss the security from the “default company” of dating. Can anyone relate? Would love any advice or general thoughts.

It’s clear to me that I’m happiest when I’m single and I mean fully single, not dating or entertaining guys whatsoever. I can’t think of a benefit having a boyfriend would ever bring. Except when it comes to holidays, like long weekends or my birthday. I don’t have many friends. The ones I do have are closer with other friends who they celebrate holidays with.

As an adult, it’s hard to make new friends especially where I live. And I have autism. I’m not close with my family. So when it comes to things like long weekends and I see everyone else celebrating with partners, friends or family, I feel really sad. Don’t get me wrong, I love being alone and have done lots alone, including travel. But humans are social creatures and on occasions where everyone else is among company, I can’t help but feel isolated. Not just romantically but socially in general. Any advice?

I know it seems obvious- make friends, but for me it’s not that simple, and I’ve tried (prob could’ve tried more tho and I’m open to suggestions). With autism, I’ve found dating significantly easier than making friends due to the structured nature of it, and the default closeness of a partner vs friend. And the one on one dynamic is something I’m much more comfortable with. So as much as I love being single, I miss the security from the “default company” of dating

24F new to Christianity and would like to meet more people my age who share my faith. Specifically interested in the United Church. I know Richmond hill can skew towards older people, so are there even young people who attend the church?

I (23F) mask a lot and tend to take on an overly nice, albeit still awkward, persona. Sometimes I’ll say things that I don’t realize come off a lil ditzy, and some people will respond in a rude way. I’ll always be nice and take it, but it pisses me off.

An example is when I went to a museum alone, I had trouble finding the entrance. I asked these two women who were also wandering around, they gave me directions, and we walked in the same direction for like 5 mins while they talked among themselves.

Trying to make friends, I asked “are you guys going to \[museum name\] too?” One of them was like “yeah, we didn’t give you directions just to walk you there” with a straight face. Like, really? my question was stating the obvious, but I was just trying to make conversation. I just laughed and said “true” and they continued talking among themselves.

Has anything like this happened to you guys too? How do you handle it in the moment? I’m tired of being so nice and letting people walk over me but that’s the only masking I know. Am I overreacting, or were they actually being rude?