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I seen a dm with a message like X subreddit invited me to join, like some moderated sent me an invite

How to do it? thanks

Almost five months out and I'm starting to think this isn't about him anymore. Which is a weird thing to realize, and also kind of makes it worse somehow

We were together three years. It faded out quietly, nothing crazy happened between us, just two people sitting in a room feeling nothing until he said he wasn't in love with me and I said okay and we cried and that was it. I thought that kind of ending would be easier..

I spend the first hour replaying everything, looking for the exact conversation where it turned, the thing I should have said. Then angry at myself, then sad, then okay for maybe two hours while I'm actually doing work. Some days I skip the anger and go straight to this flat gray feeling that's almost worse

I work remotely in Melbourne, most of my friends are coupled up, and I've already burned through my quota of dumping this on people. My mum keeps saying time heals but it's been five months and the thoughts have gotten more obsessive, not less

And here's the thing I didn't expect. Or maybe I did expect it and just didn't want to look at it. I don’t think I'm sad about him. I think I'm sad about the question of whether I'm someone people stay for. Which is a much harder thing to sit with. I keep circling back to it and then getting distracted by the replay and then losing the thread entirely and then it’s just anger again, which I think is maybe easier than the real thing.

I don’t know. The gray days are the ones that scare me most. Anyone else related or could suggest what I can do to heal myself?

Google Ads stopped making sense for us sometime in the last 9 months or so. Bootstrapped B2B SaaS, small team, ops and marketing folks at mid-size companies are our buyers. For a while paid was fine, but then it started to become insanely expensive

The organic advice I keep finding is either 'write SEO content and wait two years' or 'post on LinkedIn daily' which I don't know maybe works if you already have 5k followers but we don't. And I'm not actually sure LinkedIn is where our buyers are

Reddit has been the more interesting thing lately. A lot of real 'what should I use for X' threads happen here and in niche Slack groups, and those conversations feel different from search traffic, less passive maybe. I've been trying to show up in relevant threads without spending time manually because i'm very busy, started using ranqer app for that, though honestly I'm also not totally sure our buyers are even on Reddit or if I'm just finding other founders complaining about the same stuff I am. Which is fine

And btw comparison content we've been writing (X vs Y, use-case specific stuff) feels more promising than the Reddit thing but it's too early to say anything. Someone told me 6 months minimum before SEO moves at all. Someone else said it depends entirely on domain authority and competition in the niche, which for us is probably bad news either way. I keep going back and forth on whether to even prioritize it.

I've also been half-considering cold outbound again but idk, any advice?

How long before SEO content started doing anything real for you?

So for the past few months, we’ve been helpin different SaaS founders and indie hackers to get organic growth via seo / geo and also from Reddit. So a lot of insights

The most working thing were actualy making engagement posts and genuinely helping community

I'm not talking about these subreddits like SaaS / Marketing, we also helped some local business founders, for example in NYC. nyc subreddits are also very active here

What I see is that founders mostly could have amazing products

but they fail because they try to market like advertisers instead of community members, like they force their products on the wrong audience

They post about their product directly, it gets removed or ignored

What they should do instead is to post value and when people see value instead of self promotion post they will for sure be your clients. so just be authentic share your story

Also people tell like the product is not important, but what we see is a balanced system. Because bad products, even with a lot of money invested, are not getting good ROI

We've tested that many times, for example 1 viral post leaded to 1k upvotes, but with all of that only to 20 installs. I just wanted to share that don't disappoint when people tell u like product doesn't matter and it's all doesn't have creative sense - it all does and very affecting

Nowadays product should be competitive with others, and plus have authentic marketing strategy!

And what's your thoughts on it? How is your marketing going? (btw I'm very open to help in the comments if u have question! )
Thanks for readig!