Please help
I'm a partner of a recently recovering alcoholic. They have 51 days sober today, but they developed a relationship with someone while in an inpatient program and within 16 days of me picking them up they replaced me with this person they met there. I caught her sending this guy nudes, and she's been going on dates but saying she's at meetings. She even went as far as to spend the night with him when she said she was going to visit her cousin and their divorced partner because he had cancer but the guy she met inside has his phone number all over her call logs and messages. I text the guy she he confirmed and verified they were together the whole time, without even putting information in this text.
My question is this something AA condones of its attending members? Replacing a handle a day drinking habit with a sexual relationship built from 16 days? Which ruined a 19 year partnership?
I'm done here can keep her!