u/Opening-Building-833

It came up today over a brunch with my girl friends, and I found out none of their husbands/bfs have ever done 'it'. (Avoiding words that might get the post deleted)

That caught me by surprise, because I am 28F, have spent 10 years (teenage to 25) in the States and have dated 2 people, where it's not considered a big deal. I am now dating an Indian man, we met on tinder, and he too told me that he has never gone down on a woman before. He has dated 5 women in the past.

I am wondering why is that? Is it like a cultural thing or just lack of education? What has been your experience?

All opinions welcome.

I matched with him on an app some 10 days ago, and instantly we hit it off. Talking day and night. I was waiting for him to ask me out. He finally did. I agreed.

He picked me up, we go to a pizzeria, had a great time, and then he dropped me home before my curfew. Through and through a gentleman. He and I only had a handshake, not even a hug. Lol.

I loved the date, he was a little shy and awkward. Adorable.

When I was about to sleep, he asks "second date tomorrow?'

I know, I know...TOO FAST! I joke that he is already addicted to me. He says "Nah, nah, just getting to know a new friend". FRIEND lol. I try make excuses, but who am I kidding, I also wanted to see him so I agreed.

The next day he picks me up. We go to a cafe. This is where it gets interesting.

I have a habit of tapping on my forehead when I am thinking, just soft taps with my fingers. So, as I am going through the menu I start doing it, he asks me what does it do. I tell him it helps me think. and so, he starts TAPPING ON MY FOREHEAD.

in the middle of a full cafe. It looked as if we are an old couple, dating since a decade or something.

I was stunned. I am good at a poker face, but I am sure i blushed. He stopped after 10 seconds, that is awfully long! and just casually asked if that forehead tap helped me pick a dessert!

later, while we were eating the dessert, just a tiny particle fell on my shirt...you can guess where.

I did not even notice it tho, it was teeny tiny. He just took a tissue out and wiped it off! Before I understood what happened, the job was done and he resumed chatting up on work and dogs. I will not make it sound like he was a creep. The touch did not feel like a "bad touch". His hand did not linger or anything.

But still, I would just give the other person a tissue and not do it myself!!!

IDK..is this a red flag? I have asked my friends and they are split.

Half think it's cute only, he is just awkwardly trying to make a move.

The other half think "oh, he is pushing a boundary there"

I have met creeps too unfortunately, and they are PUSHY. this did not feel like that. But, it certainly felt BOLD. Intense. (also this was in a tier-2 city, where PDA is unheard of)

Idk what to make of this. Open to opinions from all (especially men, because a guy knows how a guy thinks).