u/One-Volume-9158

I’m looking into getting a pump but the logistics of what to buy and when to buy, I can’t figure out.

So I plan on breastfeeding as much as I can and pump occasionally.

I was looking into buying a good set of hands free pumps and it will covered with the insurance.

But then I got thinking that if for any reason I can’t breastfeed as much, a Spectra would be a better option since it’s has a better suction and is hospital grade.

So now I don’t want to waste the insurance coverage on the pumps I’m not sure would be what I need.

I thought about waiting for the baby to be born and then buy, but also every says that a good pump first few weeks is very useful.

What did you do?

I’m looking into getting a pump but the logistics of what to buy and when to buy, I can’t figure out.

So I plan on breastfeeding as much as I can and pump occasionally.

I was looking into buying a good set of hands free pumps and it will covered with the insurance.

But then I got thinking that if for any reason I can’t breastfeed as much, a Spectra would be a better option since it’s has a better suction and is hospital grade.

So now I don’t want to waste the insurance coverage on the pumps I’m not sure would be what I need.

I thought about waiting for the baby to be born and then buy, but also every says that a good pump first few weeks is very useful.

What did you do?

My husband used to be a social butterfly. He was very popular, loved hanging out with people, doing activities, hosting and cooking for them. And he had a lot of friends.

I was never a social butterfly but also enjoyed people’s company. Never asked him not to hang out with friends and was always encouraging because I myself enjoy it as well.

We’ve been together for 10 years and he’s slowly changed. He is no longer very social. He doesn’t want to hang out with people, he doesn’t have any close friends or anyone he connects with very much.

I’m currently pregnant and can’t physically accompany him for activities but encourage him to do so. He started going on hikes and says he prefers to go alone so he is not asking anyone to go with him.

During the years we’ve had very bad experiences with friends unfortunately. I know he felt betrayed in more than a few occasions. From people suddenly deciding to ghost us, to people who were not there when we lost a baby.. and I feel like the trauma of all those badly ended friendships changed him a lot.

Is there anything I can do to help him? I can’t help but feel he is not happy and he feels lonely, but also can’t trust people anymore. I try to encourage him to spend time with his friends but he doesn’t seem to want to. Am I worried about nothing and is this just a normal thing that happens to men?

I am 32 and he is 38 now. We are expecting our first child after a devastating loss last year. And we moved to a completely different city 5 years ago that kinda when we lost a lot of good friends too.