u/Oliloos__ — reddlx

Getting misgendered by someone close to me.?

Im not sure if thats what he was doing, but someone close to me was talking about how I vibe and have a better social circle with women than men, and then told me that cutting my hair (its shaggy rn) wouldn't change the "issue"??

What issue??

growing up all my friends were male up until high-school I started hanging out with some girls along with boys.

I've been out for 10 years, top surgery, T, all of that.

Yeah I'm soft and not super masculine, and I fear that's what he's pointing at as a valid point?

I'm emotional, I have mental health problems (anxiety, depression, mood swings) and I'm overanalyzing it.

What if hes right?? Now I feel like a fraud who needs to put up a toxic masculine front but its exhausting. I feel safer with women because ive been abused by men, super masculine cis men scare me, but does that make me a scared women?

I get Dysphoria, I fear I'm faking sometimes, now I worry that instead of being viewed as a more gentle (bi leaning towards men) man, people are viewing me as a scared girl? idk. I'm getting emotional over it and I dont want to be emotional, I should "act like a man" and throw my emotions away, im super self conscious of the few female attributes I have (like crossing my legs when sitting or being soft spoken and submissive)

idk guys. Does this sound like misgendering or am I looking too far into it? :/

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u/Oliloos__ — 3 days ago

▲ 0 r/SafetyProfessionals

Do-It-Yourself garage wall teardown.

My mom INSISTS on tearing down the garage wall herself, despite there being like 20 OSHA violations with it. It doesnt feel safe, but she won't get a professional. How dangerous is this, asking for a professional opinion.

• The wall and filling has water damage, mold, and is exposed to children and animals.

• We've been told to do it since October, but she's insisting of doing it herself in one weekend (it needs to be done by the end of the month).

• The garage side was built non professionally, it used to be a carport but she insists on building a new wall. My father ghetto-rigged the garage 30 years ago.

• The makeshift stable? that her and my brother decided it'll hold up the ceiling that is probably caving in anyway??

• The exposure was not prevented, its been like this for a few years now so the state will not help work/pay for it.

• I believe there are baby birds living in that wall, we hear chirping in the wall and ceiling.

• LASTLY, there is no gutter, never has been, so its still not going to be passed in inspection because it'll start damaging again.

Any words or advice to help? My mom also got hospitalized a few years ago from bacteria pneumonia and im afraid she'll get sick again (she's of course doing this with no gloves and and no mask.)

u/Oliloos__ — 4 days ago

▲ 5 r/usu

Its not terrible, I've always (throughout Jr. High and High School) been a B+/B/B- student, so it's understandable I have a 2.82, I graduated High School with a cumulative 2.7 and a 3.4 for my overall senior year.

However, I've been trying to get it higher but I did pretty bad on a final exam, bringing it back down to where it was last semester despite trying so hard.

I'm going to be a Junior this Fall (yes, I'm taking Summer classes) and I want to be at least the 3.0 average. I struggle with mental health and feel disappointed in how I'm doing so far.

Realisticly, given the time and effort, how much higher could I raise it in the next two years, assuming I dont get any C's or D's? thanks! I need to retake a core class I got a D+ on, so that might help too?

My very first two semesters I got a D and a C+ on General classes so it started kinda bad from the start.

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u/Oliloos__ — 9 days ago

▲ 1 r/Hair

I've always been told its "slightly wavy" and thick, but it makes hairstyles hard to have sometimes. I dont understand hair terminology:/ thanks!

and what type of of hairstyles go best with this type?

Also, I've always wondered about hair color, people say both brown and blonde, so idk anymore lol, if you can help

u/Oliloos__ — 12 days ago